The family comedian, using humor and silliness to distract from the dysfunction but ultimately feels responsible for everyone's feelings.
Mascot
These self-protection tools are used to define our limits within relationships.
Boundaries
Anything that provokes a memory or impulse to resume using drugs or alcohol
Triggers
If my family members don't change next week after we spent all weekend at that workshop, then they will never change and we wasted all that time.
All or nothing thinking
What’s the main problem with using distraction to help you cope?
It doesn't address the core problem.
I am the achiever of the family, always the best at everything I do, and my whole family identifies with my successes because they mean everything else going on must not be so bad. (Sally won the science trophy again, so we must not be all bad here.)
Hero
Two types of unhealthy boundaries: one too strong, one not strong enough.
Rigid and porous
What are the main brain areas involved in addiction?
Prefrontal Cortex, Limbic System (amygdala, basal ganglia)
I feel angry when I hear that song so it's a bad song.
Emotional reasoning
What is it it called to think of all the next steps of a scenario, all the way to its end in order to check your thinking?
Playing the tape
I am the person who acts out to distract from the dysfunction and pain in the family, but then I get blamed for everything that happens. (Mom wouldn’t drink so much if JimBob wasn’t always in trouble.)
Scapegoat
What communication style supports health in relationships by sharing with honesty and setting boundaries?
Assertiveness
In the CBT model, what are three interrelated areas of functioning that impact one another?
Thinking, Feeling, and Behavior
OMG I forgot to send that email! That means my boss isn’t going to trust me anymore so I won’t get that raise and my wife will leave me!
Catastrophizing
What 5 body systems does grounding use?
Sensory: touch, taste, smell, sight, hearing
I take control and make sure my family doesn’t have to feel negative consequences. Making sure my family is ok is way more important than being ok myself.
Enabler
A place your loved ones can learn the three C's- they didn't cause your addiction, they can't control your addiction, and they can't cure your addiction.
Al-Anon
What are 2 neurotransmitters that support long-term connections and happiness?
Oxytocin and serotonin
He won’t answer if I call because he still hasn’t forgiven me for last week.
Mindreading
Demonstrate a mindful breathing technique
*client choice*
Name at least 4 different types of recovery support community meetings.
AA, NA, Refuge Recovery, Smart Recovery, Celebrate Recovery, 16 Steps to Empowerment, Al-Anon, CODA, etc.
Name 5 symptoms of PAWS
I cut back my smoking from 30 cigarettes a day to 10 but it doesn’t count because I haven’t quit yet.
Discounting the Positive
Draw and label 6 categories of coping skills
square - distraction
triangle - grounding
star/explosion - emotional release
cloud - thought stopping
heart - self love
circle - higher power