Trust in Recovery
One of the three directions trust is often broken in during addiction.
What is trust in ourselves (or trust in others / others’ trust in us)?
Relapse, resentment, burnout, and people‑pleasing are fueled by a lack of these.
What are boundaries?
The three pieces of the Boundary Triangle.
What are expectation, communication, and consequence?
Accountability is NOT this, but repair plus growth.
What is shame or punishment?
Making amends without demanding forgiveness is about cleaning this.
What is our side of the street?
Active use teaches this instead of long‑term trust.
What is short‑term survival?
Boundaries are meant to protect this, not control others.
What is recovery?
Without all three boundary parts, boundaries do this.
What is collapse?
The three parts of accountability.
What are ownership, repair, and behavior change?
Repair requires sitting with this feeling instead of controlling outcomes.
What is discomfort?
Early recovery often requires doing this before trust feelings catch up.
What is acting trustworthy before feeling trustworthy?
Many people confuse boundaries with punishment or this.
What is rejection?
Clear, calm, and consistent boundaries require less of this.
What is over‑explaining?
Apologies without this erode trust.
What is behavior change?
Behavior change is the evidence of this.
What is accountability?
Trust is rebuilt through these—not promises.
What are patterns (of behavior)?
Overworked, resentful, avoidant, or explosive are examples of these.
What are boundary warning signs?
You don’t need this for a boundary—only clarity.
What is agreement?
“I lied” or “I caused harm” are examples of this accountability skill.
What is ownership?
Integrity means alignment between these two things.
What are values and actions?
Consistency, transparency, and repair rebuild trust—this does not.
What is intensity or intent alone?
When safety is involved, boundaries may become this.
What are ultimatums?
A healthy boundary response when someone raises their voice after you say no.
What is ending the conversation or leaving/hanging up?
Addiction trains survival behaviors like lying and deflecting; recovery retrains this.
What is honesty (beginning with ourselves)?
Recovery often asks us to choose this over comfort.
What are values?