Emotional
One partner keeping regular surveillance of what the other is doing.
Red flag - this can be a form of emotional abuse
Asking for permission/consent to cross one's physical boundaries.
Green Flag - Respectful behavior is expected from friends and partners
Red Flag - This is an invasion of privacy and could be considered digital abuse.
When borrowed money is returned in the time frame agreed upon by each partner.
Green Flag - shows respect and consideration
Meeting the family (or chosen family) after 2 - 3 months of knowing/dating one another.
Green Flag - This can show a genuine interest and desire to commit.
Green Flag - The red flag would be guilt-tripping them for their choices to spend time with someone you do not like.
Throwing a phone or other piece of property when angry during conflict.
Red Flag - this is violent behavior
Understanding that one is not attached to their phone; therefore, will not be responding instantly.
Green Flag - this demonstrates patience and acceptance of one as an individual.
Supporting your work, work hours and career decisions.
Green Flag - a Red Flag would be limiting the hours you work or forbidding you from working at all.
You are over 18 years old and dating someone 17 or younger.
Red Flag - The person is a minor and you shouldn't date a minor if you are an adult.
Communicating openly and honestly with others.
Green Flag - Communication is a key component to a healthy relationship.
When one person prevents the other from leaving or going somewhere.
Red Flag - This is someone being physically controlling.
Asking permission to use one another's' phones, computers or other electronic devices.
Green Flag - Respecting personal items boundaries.
Respecting your decisions on how you spend your money.
Green Flag - Monitoring what you buy would be a Red Flag.
Isolating you from your family or certain family members.
Ignoring someone on purpose due to harboring negative emotions.
Red Flag - Silent treatment is a form of emotional punishment.
Red Flag - physical abuse
Occasionally sending positive, uplifting and supportive messages or emails.
Green Flag
Getting you fired by harassing you, your employers or co-workers.
Red Flag - Considered Financial Abuse
Making inappropriate comments about you on family members' or friends' social media accounts.
Red Flag - If there is a conflict, it is important to communicate with one another rather than slander you to your friends/family members.
When someone says, "You're Overreacting."
Red Flag - They are being dismissive of one's emotions.
Consensual hugging, holding hands, kissing, cuddling etc.
Green Flag - If they asked for consent, they are respecting your physical boundaries.
Red Flag - Personal space and patience is important, even in a close relationship
Red Flag - Financial Abuse
Stalking family members in person or online.
Red Flag - Stalking is a form of abuse