Red Flag?
Your partner gets angry when you talk to male friends.
Yes, typically this is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
What are some reasons people stay in unhealthy relationships?
They feel like their partner will change, they are scared to leave, they have nowhere else to go, lack of support system, partner convinces them to stay (apologizes, makes promises, buys gifts, acts loving)
Who can be in an unhealthy relationship?
Anybody!
What are healthy communication techniques?
1 in _____ teenagers are in a verbal, physical, or emotionally abusive relationship?
A. 100 B. 3 C. 20
B. 3
Feeling overwhelming anxiety, worry, and suspicion when your partner is not near you or responding quickly?
This is a red flag. It is normal to miss your partner if they are not around or not in contact, but it should not take over your thoughts or emotions and keep you from engaging in daily duties.
How can you intervene if your friend is the abuser?
Do not ignore what they do, do not justify or encourage it, help them seek professional help.
You or your partner wants to end the relationship and break up. What is a healthy versus unhealthy response?
Healthy: feeling hurt and upset, communicating about feelings, accepting that people and relationships change, talking to a trusted friend or adult about what you're going through.
Unhealthy: refusing to accept or acknowledge the break up, bottling up emotions, lashing out, threatening to hurt yourself or your partner, spreading rumors or turning people against your partner, isolating yourself from family and friends.
Is conflict the same thing as fighting?
No. Conflict involves discussing for the purpose of mutual understanding and moving forward. Fighting involves arguing for the sake of winning, gaining power, or control.
Tension building, Incident, Reconciliation, and Calm is known as ____________?
The cycle of abuse
When discussing a problem with your partner, you always leave feeling like it is your fault.
Yes, one partner is not always responsible for every conflict. There will inevitably be times when you are in the wrong and when your partner is in the wrong.
True or False: You should always encourage your friend to break up with an abusive partner immediately?
FALSE. Leaving must be your friend's decision to make. Telling your friend to leave before they are ready may make them feel unsupported or judged.
Your partner is constantly keeping tabs on where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing. Healthy or unhealthy?
What is gaslighting?
Gaslighting is a comment or story that makes you question your own reality or experiences.
Example: Your friends don't really like you, I don't know why you spend so much time with them. Friends are temporary but I'll be here forever.
What is tension building?
When there is increased tension, less communication, increasing fear, tip-toeing around your partner because you do not want to make them upset. You know an instance of abuse is likely to happen soon.
Your partner makes demands that are not reciprocated.
Example: Your partner demands your social media passwords and access to your phone at all times, but will not share their passwords or show their phone.
This is a red flag. This is a relationship that is unequal in power and control. Power should be shared and equal between both partners in a relationship.
Who or where do you seek help in an abusive relationship?
911, National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233), 211, school staff (teacher, social worker, counselor, prinicpal)
What are steps to building a healthy relationship?
Discuss expectations, have realistic expectations, respecting the emotions of your partner, acknowledge that there will be conflict along the way, be flexible as people, relationships, and circumstances change.
What is it called when you or your partner says one thing, but actions show another thing?
Mixed messages.
What is an incident?
This is the act of abuse. It can be: verbal, physical, emotional, sexual, digital, intimidation and threats, isolation and jealousy, or peer pressure.
Your family and friends do not like your partner?
Yes, this can be a red flag. While they are not there for every occurrence in your relationship, they may notice differences within you, unhealthy tendencies, and behavior that you may not notice yet.
What are steps to leaving an abusive relationship?
1.Get help and support (family, friends, professionals)
2.Make an escape or avoidance plan (pack items, change phone number, no communication, change class schedule, make profiles private)
3.Ensure your safety (be with someone when in public, keep phone charged and close to you, be aware of your surroundings)
5.Seek legal help (911, restraining order)
What are steps to building an unhealthy relationship?
Focusing solely on sexual needs, neglecting the emotional needs of your partner, lack of support, fighting, yelling, physical abuse, control, manipulation.
What are signs you are not communicating effectively within your relationship?
You are uncomfortable or afraid to express wants, needs, fears, etc.., or dreading/avoiding conversations about difficult topics.
What is reconciliation?