Conflict
Is conflict in a relationship bad?
No not all conflict is bad. Working through conflict in a good way can strengthen relationships sometimes.
Your friend/partner gets angry when you talk to other friends/people. What kind of relationship is this?
Unhealthy
A key component in a relationship when you have a fight with a friend, family member or partner.
Communication - being able to talk and express yourself and hear the other person
What are some signs of a healthy relationship?
Happy together
Communicate in positive way
Can resolve conflicts
Trust
Honesty
Respect.....
What is one self care practice in your relationships you can use when you are feeling overwhelmed or have too much to do?
Learn to say No
Setting Healthy Boundaries
Stick to boundary
What is a way to get involved in a conflict that could be harmful?
Yelling, hitting, pushing, name calling
Your friend/partner encourages you to go after your dreams. What kind of relationship is this?
Healthy - friends, family and partners should care about your dreams and wishes.
When you are with your friend/partner, what should you pay attention to other than the actual words they are using?
Non verbal communication like:
Tone of voice
Facial expression
Body language/posture
Who can be in an unhealthy relationship?
Anyone!
Some people think they won't be in an unhealthy relationship but it can happen to anyone - is not your fault and there are people/places that can help.
When you take care of yourself, how does it affect others? (Friends, partner, family?)
Less conflict
Less isolation
more boundaries
more joy
more connection
One way you can avoid making a friend or partner feel bad when talking about a difficult issue.
What is using "I" statements
Try to see other person's perspective
Avoid accusing
Talk about your own feelings
Your friend, family or partner supports your interests by going to events that you’re involved in (e.g. musical concerts, sporting events, etc.). Is this healthy or unhealthy?
Healthy - supporting your interests is a very healthy thing to do. they may not like the event but they come to support you.
What is one solution you can name if you are having problems communicating with your friend/partner?
Talk to a friend or a trusted adult/older sibling
What are some things you can do if you are angry or upset that are healthy for you and your friend, partner or family?
Get outside
Listen to music
Rip up paper
Cold shower
Take a break
Move your body
Name 3 things that are ways you take care of yourself that involve friends, family or partner.
Spending time with them.
-Calling someone when you are lonely or upset.
-Sharing a meal with your family.
-Inviting friends over for a party.
-Having good boundaries.
Something you can do if you need to cool down during a disagreement.
What is: Take a time out
Limit discussion
go for a walk
listen to music
Your friend/partner often makes you feel like every problem in your relationship with them is your fault. Is this healthy or unhealthy?
Unhealthy. Instead of blaming you, you should talk through problems together.
What is one way to make sure that you and your friend/partner are communicating so that you both understand each other?
Being honest
Checking for clarity
Listening
Ask questions
What is the difference between being popular and being a friend?
Answer: Being popular doesn’t mean that you are a good friend. A good friend is caring and being popular means that you can be mean but people will still like you.
Being popular doesn't mean that you are a good friend. A good friend is caring and being popular often means that you can be mean to people and they will still like you.
What is something that is not self care in a relationship with self and others?
Bottling up emotions
- Not expressing how you feel (in an appropriate way)
- Forcing yourself not to cry when upset
- Not taking a break or time to process
- Yelling at someone when you are upset or blaming them for your feelings (only you control your feelings/reaction, if someone hurt you then communicate that their actions have upset you)
Some things that can turn disagreements into a fight?
What are:
1. making threats
2. Saying things like: "Do this or else"
Your friend/partner is constantly trying to know what you are doing, where you are, and who you are with. Is this healthy or unhealthy?
When you ask for help for yourself or your friend/partner, do you consider that reporting or snitching?
Reporting - if you are concerned for your friend or partner's safety or if they are going to harm themselves, you or someone else then going to a trusted adult is a great plan
Who can you contact in an emergency if you are worried about your safety or the safety of someone else (like your friend or partner)?
If there is immediate danger you can call 911/Car 22.
Yuustway Health
Youth Center - youth outreach workers
School counsellor
Foundry
What makes it hard to have good boundaries?
Feeling guilty
Feeling responsible
Drugs and Alcohol
Responsibilities in a family