Non-Defensive Communication
What is the purpose of asking questions?
To gather thorough information to understand accurately what the person means, believes, or feels.
I know someone loves me when he or she helps me.
Acts of Service
Are men or women more likely to utilize criticism in relationships?
Women.
Women can often feel irritability from needs being ignored which can result in criticism.
Physical boundaries refer to...
Personal space and physical touch.
Halloween evolved from what ancient festival?
Samhain
Avoid using a question to _________ or entrap others.
Avoid using a question to express your own opinion or entrap others.
I feel closer to friends and loved ones when they touch me often.
Physical Touch
Defensiveness is ________.
Defensiveness is an attempt to protect oneself, to defend one's innocence, and to ward off a perceived attack.
Sexual boundaries refer to...
The emotional, intellectual, and physical aspects of sexuality.
Trick-or-Treating dates back to what century?
16th Century
Avoid stating ______ as ______ or trying to _____ others to agree.
Avoid stating opinion as fact or trying to convince others to agree.
I value praise and try to avoid criticism.
Words of Affirmation
What is stonewalling?
To stonewall means that the listener withdraws from the interaction while staying in the room.
Material boundaries refer to...
Money and possessions.
What classic horror film is based on a true story?
a. The Blair Witch Project
b. The Amityville Horror
c. Poltergeist
d. Halloween
b. The Amityville Horror
The movie is based on the alleged experiences of the Lutz family who bought a new home on 112 Ocean Avenue in Amityville, New York, a house where a mass murder had been committed the year before.
What is the purpose of predicting consequences?
To create boundaries and security by telling another person ahead of time how we will react if s/he does make a certain choice, and how we will react if s/he does not make that choice.
I feel loved when people take the time to understand my feelings.
Quality Time
Is anger harmful to relationships? Why or why not?
No.
Anger by itself does not predict anything in the relationship. How anger is handled is what can affect the relationship.
Emotional boundaries refer to...
A person's feelings.
In this state, it is illegal to dress up as a priest or other clergy member for Halloween.
Alabama
Avoid using a consequence prediction to ____________ others.
Avoid using a consequence prediction to coax, punish, or falsely threaten others.
Several small gifts mean more than one large gift.
Receiving Gifts
Name the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse."
Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling
Time boundaries refer to...
How a person uses their time.
What country did Jack-O-Lanterns originally belong to?
Ireland