What are the 2 factors that shape personality?
1. Heredity or Genetics
2. Environmental
What are defense mechanisms
ways people react, almost automatically to anxiety producing events (direct attack, compensation, projection, displacement, giving up, etc.)
What does active listening look like?
the listener mirrors back the thought/feelings the speaker is experiencing; eye contact; providing feedback; nodding' etc.
Why do we date
getting to know someone; fulfillment and a sense of belonging; social status; fun & enjoyable; connection
What is positive stress referred to as
Eustress
Give me 2 examples of genetic traits
eyes, ears, nose, feet, hands, height, weight, certain health issues, etc.
What is the difference between self-concept and self-esteem
Self-concept: the way you see yourself (also called self-image)
Self-esteem: the way you feel about yourself
What are the 4 communication styles
1. passive
2. passive-aggressive
3. aggressive
4. assertive
What are characteristics of an unhealthy relationship
controlling, jealousy, abuse, stalking, belittling, etc.
What are cortisol, adrenaline, and noradrenaline as a group?
Stress hormones
how is personality different than temperament
personality - the combination of characteristics that form an individuals character
temperament - the way you respond to your environment
What are the levels of Maslows' Hierarchy of Needs
1. Physiological
2. Safety
3. Love/ Belonging
4. Esteem
5. Self-Actualization
Restate this as an i-message, "Stop bugging me. Can't you see I've got things to do?"
I feel...
when....
because....
I need...
What are the 3 sides of a mature, long-lasting relationship or marriage
passion, intimacy, and commitment
Which part of the brain is in charge of your survival instincts?
Amygdala
Name 3 areas of growth
physical, intellectual, emotional, social, moral, philosophical
How is character different from personality
character: refers to our values
personality: describes how we behave
personality is the outward expression of character
What are 3 elements of communication
sender or encoder- source
message- content
channel- the medium in which the sender transmits the message to the receiver
receiver or decoder- audience; the person who is getting the message. The act of interpreting messages is called decoding
noise- a communication barrier
feedback- tells the source how the receive has interpreted each message
context- this is the setting and situation in which communication takes place
effect- the consequence or result of communication
What is the cycle of abuse? Stages?
1. Tensions Build
2. Incident
3. Reconciliation
4. Calm
What are 3 examples of physical symptoms of stress
skin problems, stomach aches, frequent illness, headaches, etc.
Describe birth order traits of oldest, middle, youngest, and only
Oldest - perfectionist, achiever, leader, responsible, etc.
Middle - adaptable, independent, people-pleaser, peacemaker, etc.
Youngest - social, charming, outgoing, seeks attention, etc.
Only - confident, responsible, perfectionist, center of attention, etc.
What are the stages of moral development
Pre- Conventional (3-7): 1. Avoid Punishment; 2. Desire to obtain rewards
Conventional (8-13): 3. Belong and be Accepted; 4. Obey Rules & Regulations
Post- Conventional (adulthood): 5. Make & keep promises; 6. Live Moral Imperatives
What are 4 ways to manage conflict
active listening; empathy; I statements; seek common ground; compromise; time-out; focus on facts; apologize and forgive; tone of voice; mediator
What are the 5 love languages and give an example of how each looks
1. Acts of service; run an errand for your partner, etc.
2. Gifts; give a meaningful gift, etc.
3. Physical Touch; holding hands, etc.
4. Quality Time; watch a movie with no distractions, etc.
5. Words of Affirmation; verbal compliments, etc.
Explain the difference between adaptive coping and maladaptive coping - give examples of each!
Adaptive - effect; yoga, mindfulness, therapy, etc.
Maladaptive - ineffective; substance use, not eating, etc.