UNHEALTHY OR HEALTHY
Your partner gives you the silent treatment after getting into a big disagreement
Unhealthy - Communication is key to any relationship, whether it be family, friends or a partner. The silent treatment is not proper communication and is thus unhealthy
Name 3 reasons communication is important in any relationship
1. It shows respect
2. It can prevent arguments and being angry at one another
3. It allows you to both be on the same page
What is a boundary?
A boundary shows where one thing ends and another begins. In a relationship, a boundary helps you define what you are comfortable with and what you are not comfortable with
A healthy relationship looks like this:
-fighting a lot
-manipulating
-physical, emotional, mental abuse
FALSE
What is consent?
Consent is where one person gives permission to another person to do something
Your partner respects you and understands that it is important for you to have and spend time with your own friends and family
Healthy - it is important that even if you are in a relationship with someone, you each have your own group of friends and make sure you spend time with them. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean you have to spend all your time with them
Name 3 unhealthy ways to communicate
Yelling, screaming, name calling, not listening, interrupting, being rude, etc.
Why is it important to have boundaries in a relationship?
Boundaries are important for all types of relationships. If you do not have boundaries, your relationship can become toxic. Having boundaries allows you and your partner to have balance within the relationship
A relationship should empower you and make you want to be a better person?
TRUE
How can you obtain consent?
You can ask for consent. The person must consent verbally or in writting
You have done something in your relationship that your partner would not be happy about. You know they will be angry at you, so decide to not tell them what you did
Unhealthy - Communication is key. Even though your partner may be upset with something you did, it is important to tell them to avoid future problems
You feel that your partner did not listen to you when you told them something important. How can you handle this?
Be honest with your partner and use "I feel.." statements to tell them how you feel
Do boundaries ever change?
Yes! Boundaries can change over time. Something you were not comfortable with a month ago may feel more comfortable once you get to know them better
Your partner is usually sweet and kind but sometimes they get very angry and insult you. This is an example of a healthy relationship
FALSE - Insults are a form of abuse and is not healthy
You want to kiss your girlfriend for the first time but she is giving you nonverbal signs that she is uncomfortable with this. She hasn't given her consent, but she hasn't said no either. Is it okay to kiss her?
No - if your partner hasn't expressed the desire to engage in the activity, she has not given her consent
Healthy - Being able to have difficult conversations in a relationship is important. Just because you hear something, doesn't make it true. Make sure you give yourself time and space to think about how to approach the subject with your partner so you don't accuse them or potentially create a bigger issue
You do not feel comfortable giving hugs to people and your partner comes to hug you. Is it okay to say no, or will you go along with the hug?
If you have a boundary when it comes to hugs, it is important that you respect your boundaries and politely tell your partner that you do not want a hug
Does everyone have the same boundaries as you?
No - Boundaries for everyone is different. Something you may feel comfortable with may make your partner feel uncomfortable. It is just as important for you to respect your partners boundaries as it is for them to respect yours
Controlling who your partner hangs out with and where she goes is a healthy thing to do in a relationship?
FALSE - this is a co-dependent and controlling relationship and is considered abuse. You and your partner should have your own friends and both should be able to do things with those friends
If your partner has consented once to something, it now means you can do it without consent?
Absolutely not! Consent needs to be given each time and you can say "Yes" at the beginning and change your mind later. You can say "stop" or "no" at any time
You feel like you cannot be your true self around your partner
Unhealthy - Never feel like you have to change for someone. When a person really likes you, they will accept you for who you are
Verbal communication is the only form of communication
Verbal communication is only one type of communication. There is also non-verbal, written, listening and visual communication
You are hanging out with your friends and your partner calls saying they want to hang out. You are having fun with friends and do not want to leave. How can you set a healthy boundary?
Using "I feel.." statements are very powerful
If you feel you are in an unhealthy relationship, it is important to talk to someone and plan a way to leave the relationship
TRUE!
If you are tickling your partner and they are laughing but say "no" or "stop" out loud, you can continue to tickle them because they are laughing
NO! Even though they are laughing they are very clearly taking back consent by saying "no" or "stop" out loud