Healthy vs. Unhealthy
Social Skills and Boundaries
Red, Yellow, Green Flag
Scenario Time
Vocab and Key Concepts
100

What is one sign of a healthy relationship?


Trust, respect, support, communication, etc.

100

What is a “boundary”?


A limit you set to protect your comfort, space, or values.

100

Which flag: Your partner celebrates your wins and cheers you on.


Green flag

100

Your friend listens to you and checks in when you’re upset. What kind of behavior is this?


Healthy/supportive

100

What is “mutual respect”?


Both people valuing and treating each other well

200

What is one sign of an unhealthy relationship?


Control, disrespect, jealousy, manipulation, etc.

200

Give an example of a personal boundary in a friendship or relationship.


Not wanting to share password

200

Which flag: They tease you in a way that sometimes feels mean.


Yellow flag

200

Someone you’re dating gets mad if you spend time with other friends. What’s going on?


Jealous/controlling behavior (unhealthy)

200

What is “communication”?


Exchanging thoughts, feelings, or information clearly and respectfully

300

True or False: In a healthy relationship, both people should feel safe to express themselves.


True

300

True or False: You should feel guilty for setting a boundary.


False

300

Which flag: They constantly text you asking where you are and get mad if you don’t reply.


Red flag

300

You feel pressured to do something you don’t want to do. What should you do first?


Say no / set a clear boundary / communicate feelings

300

What is “trust” in a relationship?


Feeling safe to be honest and rely on each other

400

Give an example of healthy communication

Active listening, using “I” statements, honesty, etc

400

What’s a respectful way to say no to something you’re uncomfortable with?


Using a clear “I” statement (e.g., “I’m not comfortable with that”).

400

Which flag: You’re not sure how to feel about a friend’s “jokes” that only sometimes cross the line.


Yellow flag

400

Your partner spreads private information you told them. What should you do?


Address the issue, re-evaluate trust, possibly end the relationship

400

What is the difference between jealousy and controlling behavior in a relationship?

 

Jealousy is a feeling someone might have (like insecurity or fear of losing someone), while controlling behavior is when someone acts on that feeling to limit, monitor, or control another person — which is unhealthy.

500

Explain how someone might confuse controlling behavior for “love” and why that’s unhealthy.


Some may see jealousy/controlling as caring, but it’s a sign of imbalance and can harm trust.

500

Your partner keeps checking your phone even after you’ve said no. What boundary is being crossed, and what should you do?


 reassert boundary, communicate, or seek help if it continues.

500

Your partner tells you who you can and can’t talk to. What flag is this and why?


Red flag — controlling behavior is a major red flag in relationships.

500

Your friend is in an unhealthy relationship but doesn’t  see it. What are 2–3 ways you could support them?



Listen without judgment, share resources, encourage them to talk to a trusted adult, remind them of their worth.

500

Define “manipulation” and give one example.


Trying to control someone’s behavior indirectly or unfairly; e.g., guilt-tripping, lying to get what you want.