Boundaries
The process of establishing personal limits and expectations to protect one's well-being and sense of self in a relationship.
What is setting boundaries
A sign that we could benefit from growth in this skill is if we often do not have a strong understanding of how we are feeling, thinking, behaving, or communicating. We can improve this skill through meditation, journaling, and therapy. This skill helps us manage behaviors and grow personal relationships.
What is self awareness
We can build this quality by recognizing and owning up to our behavior, actions, and inactions without shifting blame to a circumstance or someone else.
What is accountability
This action involves fully focusing on the speaker, understanding their perspective, and responding thoughtfully. This action helps de-escalate conflicts.
What is active listening.
This term is described as a way of behaving in relationships where you persistently prioritize someone else over you, and you assess your mood based on how they behave. A sign of this can be self-worth that depends on what others think about you.
What is codependency
These are often developed as a way for an individual to protect themselves from the possibility of rejection. Individuals with these often exhibit characteristics of emotional detachment, resistance to change, difficulty compromising, and strict adherence to rules or expectations. These can lead to difficulty with developing or maintaining relationships. Individuals with these are unlikely to ask for help. The individual with these may notice a pattern of feeling isolated and lonely.
What are rigid boundaries
This is a type of communication that expresses hostility without violence or physical aggression.
-Examples: You often find yourself sulking when you are unhappy with someone.
-You are putting off doing things as a way to punish others.
-You typically avoid people when you are upset with them.
What is passive aggressive
Name 3 practical signs of strong trust in a relationship.
Possible answers:
Not afraid to be yourself, can share about past pain, not checking each others phones/social media, don't feel controlled, your friends and family are still there, share responsibilities, you can ask for help, you can share when you are unhappy, don't feel a need to hide, overall feeling of security, feeling safe
We can build this quality by intentionally trying to understand and acknowledge the feelings and viewpoints of others. This quality can help us see the conflict from multiple angles.
What is empathy
Addiction is called a family disease due to its impacts affecting the entire family system, not just the individual using substances. Therefore, long-term recovery is strongest when everyone receives support. This is a mutual support group designed for family members, friends, and others impacted by someone's addiction.
What is Al-Anon
the limits that separate your thoughts, feelings, and emotional responsibilities from those of others, protecting your inner peace and well-being.
What are emotional boundaries
This prioritizes the importance of both peoples' needs. Characteristics of this involves clearly stating needs and wants, confident tone and body language, eye contact, and willingness to compromise, and an ability to listen without interrupting. Often uses "I" statements.
What is assertive communication
You can build this quality by consistently doing what you say you are going to do when you say you are going to do it.
What is integrity
This behavior involves finding a middle ground where all parties' needs are considered. This involves balancing interests to reach mutually acceptable solutions.
What is compromise
-manipulation
-gaslighting
-disrespecting boundaries
-emotional neglect
-actions that promote distrust
-guilt tripping
-involves a lot of drama
-Encourages drug or alcohol use
-Their words may be supportive but their actions do not match
Common traits of someone with these are:
overshares personal information, difficulty saying "no" to the requests of others, overinvolved with others' problems, dependent on the opinions of others, accepting of abuse or disrespect, and often fear rejection if they do not comply with others. Individuals with these may see themselves as "people pleasers." Individuals with these often end up building resentments and feelings of burnout.
What are porous boundaries
Characteristics of this includes hostility, mean spirited comments, lying, intimidation, threats, demanding, seeks control, one-sided, and minimizes the needs of others. Often uses "you" statements.
What is aggressive communication
There is a risk involved in this that often keeps people from being willing to engage in it. However, if we don't engage in it, we are unable to form deep connection with others.
what is vulnerability
Name a minimum of 5 examples of unhealthy behaviors when conflict arises in a relationship
Possible answers: Yelling, silent treatment, name calling, threatening, physical aggression, humiliating, degrading, belittling, sarcasm, gaslighting, blaming
This is a behavior within a relationship that typically has good intentions, but can prolong unhealthy, destructive behavior.
What is enabling
Common traits of individuals with these include:
values their own opinions, does not compromise their values for others, does not often over or under share personal information, knows and communicates personal wants and needs, is accepting when others say "no" to them.
What are healthy boundaries
Examples of this type of communication includes:
-Frequent apologizing when asking for something they need.
-Giving in to others' opinions or suggestions.
-Frequent indecisiveness
what is passive communication
This is a necessary component to show that you're serious about rebuilding trust. This requires time.
What is consistency
This effective tool can act as a bridge during misunderstandings or emotional distance. It means recognizing, understanding, and affirming a person's emotions, thoughts, and experiences, even if you don't fully agree with them. This communicates that the person's feelings make sense in their context and are worthy of attention.
What is validation
Often referred to as the opposite of addiction. Reduces feelings of isolation and increases social support. A significant factor in resilience against relapse. Sustains long-term recovery.
What is connection