Friend/Frenemy
Healthy or Not
Multiple Choice
True or False
100

This person helps me even when it's not convenient for him/her.

Friend

100

My good friend has enough problems in her life, so it does not bother me when she tells me she doesn't want to help me.

Unhealthy. Good friends help each other regardless of their own problems in life. Be aware of friends who take, but never give.

100

You should drop a friend if: 

A: your best friend doesn't like them

B: they don't like all the same things you do

C: none of the above

C: You should never judge someone based on the opinions of others. Make your own choices. You do not have to have everything in common to be friends.

100

It is your job to make sure your friend is always happy.

False. You can help your friend through a hard time, but you are not responsible for their happiness. They must find it within themselves.

200

Sometimes, I do things I really don't want to do - to keep them from getting mad at me.

Frenemy - friends won't make you feel bad for not doing what they say.

200

I can have fun even without my best friend around.

Healthy. Friends should feel independent enough to enjoy time away and have other friends. Being too dependent on somebody else is not healthy. 

200

If someone doesn't like something about you, you should:

A: Change it so you can be closer friends

B: Agree to disagree 

B: Agree to disagree. Differences make life more interesting. It would be boring if everyone was the same. 

200

It's okay to do something you really do not want to do in order to keep a friendship.

False. A true friend would never stop being your friend just because you didn't want to do something they asked you to do.

300

This person tends to talk negatively about other friends when they are not around.

Possible frenemy. Beware of friends who make fun of their other friends. They may also do that to you when you are not around.

300

When I am around my friend, I am afraid I will say something to make them upset or mad at me.

Unhealthy. One sign of a good friend is that you feel relaxed around them and not afraid of their reaction.

300

My friend never listens to me and only wants to talk about their problems. I should:

A: Let it go.

B: Tell them how it makes you feel to not be able to share.

B: You deserve to have equal attention in a friendship. Always be honest with your friends and let them know how you feel. A true friend will understand.

300

Good friends do not need to talk every day in order to have a strong relationship.

True. True friends keep their bond even when they spend time apart. It's healthy to take breaks from each other and have other friends.

400

If I cannot talk or hang out with my friend because I am busy, they are understanding and do not make me feel guilty.

Friend

400

I know that I can tell my friend something personal without them sharing it with others.

Healthy. True friends do not share information you tell them without your permission.

400

I have the right to the following in all of my relationships:

A: Feeling safe and respected

B: Being able to make my own decisions

C: Both A and B

C: You have the right to a healthy relationship that is comprised of trust, respect, and good communication.

400

A healthy relationship takes two people respecting each other's interests, opinions, and values.

True. Although friends may not always agree, respect and good communication are essential for a healthy relationship.

500

I often feel bad about myself around this person.

Frenemy. True friends build you up and make you feel good.

500

My friend always demands to do what he/she wants to do and insists on always going first.

Not a healthy friendship. True friends compromise and take turns to make things fair.

500

Before make a new friend you should:

A: See if other friends like them first

B: Decide if you enjoy being around them on your own

B: If you enjoy being around someone, it doesn't matter what other people think.

500

You can tell you will like someone just by how they look.

False. Friendship should be based on how a person treats you and others, not by how they look.