True/False
T/F: You can never end a relationship with a family member.
FALSE. You can end a relationship with anyone, even family.
Conflict ________ occurs when two people work together to come to an agreement that protects the relationship.
Resolution
Alex and his sister, Emma, are not on speaking terms. They had a big fight months ago and haven't spoken since. Alex wants to repair things but Emma told him to never call her again or she would change her number. What should Alex do?
Even if Alex has good intentions, he needs to respect Emma's boundaries and take her stated consequences seriously.
T/F: A damaged relationship can't always be repaired.
TRUE: Sometimes, depending on the situation, there is too much damage and a repair isn't possible.
Rebuilding trust is an example of a _ _ _ _ for the repair process.
Jill and Ray are dating. They are arguing over who gets to use the car on Friday night. Jill says she should because it's her scheduled night. Ray says he should because his friend is throwing a party across town. They don't want to break up or fight, but this situation is very stressful for them. What should they do?
They should use conflict resolution. By working together to find an agreeable solution, they can preserve their relationship and reduce the risk of damage/repair.
T/F: Sometimes after a repair happens, the relationship never returns back to how it was before the rupture.
TRUE: Just because a repair happens does not mean that the relationship we go back to how it was originally.
A _________ is an example of something you can set to protect your comfort levels
boundary/limit
April and Max are siblings. Max snuck into April's room and stole her computer and sold it, losing years of her saved writing. April tells Max she is mad, his actions are unforgiveable, and if he ever goes in her room again she will call the police. Is this relationship capable of a repair?
Most likely not. April stated Max's actions were unforgiveable, meaning that even if he were to apologize and put in effort to show his regret, she still would not be able to move past the rupture.
T/F: A repair is the same thing as conflict resolution.
FALSE: A repair works to mend an issue with the relationship. Conflict resolution is about finding an agreeable solution to protect the relationship from damage.
Knowing when to and when not to put effort towards a repair is _________
important/critical/key/crucial
Kevin and Fred and roommates who fought over a broken gaming system. They both agreed to talk and apologized for their actions/took accountability and discussed what would need to change/why the conflict happened. What would the next step be?
Actions. Kevin and Fred apologized, discussed the rupture, and now need to take action. They need to follow through with their promises, respect boundaries, etc to reduce the chance of another rupture from occurring.
T/F: Healthy relationships can include repairs.
TRUE: Just because damage occured/a repair occured does not mean the relationship is unhealthy.
The example today was about siblings fighting over a ________.
BIKE
Bella and Carrie are coworkers. Carrie kept parking in Bella's assigned spot and Bella asked her multiple times to stop. Bella told Carrie if she didn't listen then she would tell their boss. Carrie didn't listen and the boss reprimanded her as a result. Carrie says Bella should apologize for getting her in trouble. Do you think Bella owes Carrie an apology?
No. The relationship between Bella and Carrie may be damaged, but Carrie should be held accountable for the damage and the consequences. Bella set boundaries, communicated, and listed her consequences. Carrie did not respect the limits and is responsible for her actions.