Replacement Phrases

Replacement 1

100

Scenario 1: Frustrated About Group Work

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "You’ll wish you never made me do all the work."
• Constructive Alternative:

Scenario 1: Frustrated About Group Work

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "You’ll wish you never made me do all the work."
• Constructive Alternative: "I feel frustrated because I’m doing more than my share. Can we talk about dividing the work more fairly?"
• Or something like this-- :)

200

Scenario 2: Angry About Losing in a Game

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "You’ll regret beating me."
• Constructive Alternative

Scenario 2: Angry About Losing in a Game

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "You’ll regret beating me."
• Constructive Alternative: "I’m upset that I lost. I need to take a break before playing again.

300

Scenario 3: Upset About a Grade

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "This teacher is the worst. Someone should get rid of them."
• Constructive Alternative

Scenario 3: Upset About a Grade

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "This teacher is the worst. Someone should get rid of them."
• Constructive Alternative: "I’m disappointed with my grade. Can I talk to the teacher about how to improve next time?"

400

Scenario 4: Feeling Embarrassed After Being Corrected

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "You’ll be sorry for embarrassing me like that."
• Constructive Alternative:

Scenario 4: Feeling Embarrassed After Being Corrected

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "You’ll be sorry for embarrassing me like that."
• Constructive Alternative: "I didn’t like being corrected in front of everyone. Can we talk privately next time?"

500

Scenario 5: Upset with a Peer During Lunch

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "You better watch out next time you sit by me."
• Constructive Alternative:

Scenario 5: Upset with a Peer During Lunch

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "You better watch out next time you sit by me."
• Constructive Alternative: "I didn’t like how you talked to me at lunch. Can we work this out?"

Replacement 2

100

Scenario 6: Feeling Excluded by Friends

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "I hope you all have a horrible time without me."
• Constructive Alternative:

Scenario 6: Feeling Excluded by Friends

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "I hope you all have a horrible time without me."
• Constructive Alternative: "I feel left out when I’m not included. Can I join next time?"

200

Scenario 8: Angry at a Sibling at Home

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "You’ll regret messing with me later."
• Constructive Alternative:

Scenario 8: Angry at a Sibling at Home

• Problematic Response (Indirect Threat): "You’ll regret messing with me later."
• Constructive Alternative: "I’m upset that you took my things without asking. Can you please not do that again?"

300

 Feeling Angry About Being Bumped in Line

• Direct Threat: "If you cut in front of me again, I’ll push you!"
• Safe Alternative:

 Feeling Angry About Being Bumped in Line

• Direct Threat: "If you cut in front of me again, I’ll push you!"
• Safe Alternative: "It upsets me when people cut in line. Please wait your turn."

400

Feeling Mocked or Teased

• Direct Threat: "If you laugh at me again, I’ll hurt you!"
• Safe Alternative:

Feeling Mocked or Teased

• Direct Threat: "If you laugh at me again, I’ll hurt you!"
• Safe Alternative: "It hurts my feelings when people laugh at me. Can you please stop?

500

Frustration with a Peer

• Direct Threat: "I’m going to hit you if you don’t stop making that sound!"
• Safe Alternative

Frustration with a Peer

• Direct Threat: "I’m going to hit you if you don’t stop making that sound!"
• Safe Alternative: "I feel really annoyed right now and need some space. (Take a break)