Optimistic Thinking/Empathy
What is "glass have full" thinking?
Being realistic but positive
What do you think problem solving means?
Problem solving is about finding solutions to challenges.
What is off-the-mark thinking?
Automatic and negative thoughts that usually are not true. They seem to make sense to us but they are not realistic and they lead us to worry or be unhappy.
What is anxiety?
Everyone feels anxious or worried at one time or another. Anxiety is actually something that happens in our bodies that warns us that there is trouble ahead or that we are being threatened.
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What are you supposed to bring everyweek?
Homework and Success Journal
What should you do when you catch a negative thought?
Change the channel
How is problem solving related to friendships?
In order to maintain friendships problem solving is very important so you can feel that you and your friend compromise.
This off-the-mark thinking is when:
Thinking in extreme’s. Everything is all right or all wrong, perfect or total failure
If you miss a shot in a basketball game. If you feel like you’ve failed or are a failure than you’re using all or nothing thinking.
Filtering or All or Nothing Thinking?
All or Nothing Thinking
What is a situation that would make someone anxious?
Things like having to perform in a game or in school and having a lot of school work or being in certain situations can cause anxiety.
We can also feel anxiety when we think of scary things, such as something bad happening to us or someone we love
Hakuna Matata it means
No worries!
What might be happening in your body if you are feeling angry?
Fists balled up, heart racing, getting hot
What is a positive/optimistic thought?
I can do it!
I'm smart!
It may be difficult but I can try my best!
What is an example of a friend getting upset instead of calmly solving a problem?
Ali will judge the answer.
When you are magnifying the negatives of a situation and minimizing the positives. You think about the bad things that happened and not about the good things.
For example the day in school goes mostly well but you have one negative interaction and when your Mom asks you how the school day was you say TERRIBLE!
Shoulds or Filtering
Filtering
Give an example of anxious self-talk
When people feel anxious they often have negative self-talk and say things like “I can’t handle this,” or “I’m going to mess up, make a mistake or fail.”
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What is Empathy?
“Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes.” Seeing a situation from two different perspectives.
What is empathy?
When we put ourselves in someone else's shoes and think about how they may be feeling/thinking.
You are hanging out with a friend and you and your friend want to do different things. What do you do?
Ali will judge
What is catastrophizing?
Expecting the worst to happen and expect that you will not be able to handle it
This type of thinking is a common cause of anxiety
We call these thoughts “What ifs” For example you think, what if I mess up on this writing assignment - you can automatically jump to the conclusion that you will fail and never be able to write well.
Give examples of positive self-talk.
Calm down you’ll be fine or okay. Remind yourself of something good you’ve done today. Think about things that make you happy
Some people are worth __________ for.
melting
What is off-the-mark thinking?
Sometimes we have automatic and negative thoughts that we call “off the mark” thinking. They seem to make sense to us but they are not realistic and they lead us to worry or be unhappy.
What is self-talk?
The way we talk to ourselves
You are at school talking to your friend who asks you to get together and hang out after school. In the middle of this conversation, another student quickly approaches the two of you and starts to tell your friend that his plans have changed and that now he can get together after school. What do you do?
Russia
What are shoulds?
Shoulds - people who think they or other people should behave in just one way can get upset when their expectations aren’t met.
Off the mark thought - I should always know the right thing to say.
What are the three parts of anxiety?
Body, Thoughts & Behavior
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Name one of our group rights.
Respect what others feel and choose.
If you’re going to eat put yourself on mute.
If you need to go to the bathroom raise a hand or write Ali in the chat
Respect other people’s wishes
To speak freely
To have time to think before responding
To play fair
To make mistakes
To be treated with respect and include everyone
To be listened to without interruption
Give an example of positive self-talk and negative self-talk.
Ali will judge
What are the steps to problem solving?
Define the Problem
Stay calm and remind yourself that we can work it out. Use calming strategies if you need them.
Think of at least three ways to solve the problem.
Discuss the solutions with your friend and agree on one.
If the solution works, you are done. If not try another idea.
What is personalization?
Personalization - thinking “It’s all about me”
Assuming that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you.
What are two examples of relaxation exercises to calm the body?
Deep breathing, guided imagery, body squeeze.
A dream is a wish...
your heart makes.
What is self-talk? Give an example of negative self-talk and positive self-talk
Self-talk are the things we say to ourselves usually in our own minds - the private conversations we have with ourselves.