types of behaviors 1
Name the 3 types of unkind behaviors we have discussed
Rude, mean, bullying
Why would someone continue mean behavior? (example, they give you mean looks, you ask them to stop, but they do it again).
Name one reason (there are many possible answers).
Offer to go with them. Encourage them that they are doing the right thing.
1. They have low self-esteem
2. They want attention (or friends) and don't know how to do it the right way.
3. Someone is being mean, or bullying them so they have learned to act the same way to feel powerful and /or safe.
What does the word intentionally mean?
on purpose
What is the first step (3 steps) for responding to unkind behavior
Say "Stop" (w/hand sign)
What is the first question an adult will ask when you talk (report) unkind behavior.
Did you tell them to stop (and use the signal)
When someone says or does something hurtful on purpose. and they do it many times (many days) even after you said stop and they know it upsets you.
What do we call this behavior
Bullying
You hear classmates talking about your friend, saying that she cheated on a test (rumors). You tell them to "stop" and they do. Should you tell your friend.
No, "stop" worked. It is over. Telling your friend would only cause hurt feeling.
What does the word bystander mean?
A person who witnesses (sees/hears) unkind behavior
What is the second step (3 steps) for responding to unkind behavior
Walk (turn away/ignore)
What is the second question an adult will ask you when you "talk" (report unkind behavior)?
Did you ignore the behavior (or walk away)?
Someone says or does something hurtful, on purpose and it happens 1-3 times.
What do we call this behavior?
Mean
At recess, someone is calling you a nickname that you don't like. You say stop, but they continue. You walk away, and they go and play somewhere else. Do you need to report this?
No, the stop and walk strategy has worked. You have taken care of yourself and solved the problem.
What does the work proactive mean?
Acting instead of reactiing, for the best possible outcome
What is the third step (3 steps) for handling unkind behavior
Talk (ask an adult for help and/or report the unkind behavior)
If you said stop, and walked away, what will the adult do when you talk (report).
Listen, write down the facts, follow through with the other student.
Someone says or does something hurtful, not on purpose, (they are in a bad mood, or a hurry) and it happens once or twice.
What type of behavior is this
Rude
Someone grabs your food at lunch. You say "stop". They grab your food a few more times, playfully laughing (it happens to be your best friend).
You are annoyed and not laughing, what would be your next step. (there are several possible answers).
1. You could turn away and ignore the behavior
2. You could wait until after lunch and talk to your friend about it.
3. Raise your hand and ask to change seats.
What is the definition of Bullying behavior
When someone says or does something hurtful, on purpose, and they keep doing it even when you tell them to stop or show them that you are upset. This happens more than one day.
What can you do if you are in a situation where you cannot "walk" away (ie. on the school bus, lunch room?
Ignore, turn away, look at a book,
If you "talk" make a report, before you say "stop" and walk away, will you get into trouble.
No you will not be in trouble, but the adult will remind you to try these strategies first.
On the first day of school, a classmate says “you cant sit by me at lunch, I'm already sitting by Suzy.”
You sit by another friend and enjoy lunch.
What type of behavior is this?
Rude
Someone knocked a book out of Billy's hand (on purpose). He said stop. The student replied "whatever, I can do that whenever I want." and then followed Billy around the library. (This is the first time the behavior happened)
What type of behavior is this?
Mean
What is the main difference between rude and mean behavior
Rude behavior is unintentional (not on purpose)
Mean behavior is intentional (on purpose)
When is it ok to skip to step 3 (talk) and go directly to an adult for help?
Whenever you feel threatened, scared, or someone is in danger.
What is the difference between:
1. reporting an unkind behavior and
2. tattleing
Report: you've tried all the steps and you need the adult to get involved. Or you are asking an adult for more ideas.
Tattle: you are not looking for help, you want the other person to get into trouble. Tattlers rarely have triend "stop" or "walk" on their own.