The "R"s
Is expected between all staff, children, and families. In a restorative community, it is assumed, meaning it is given as a way to show we value one another, no matter one’s background or differences.
What is Respect?
A verbal statement of regret after an argument or conflict.
What is an Apology?
What’s said in the circle stays in the circle.
What is Confidentiality?
Is free of judgment, labels, opinions.... It makes it clear the participant is being seen and recognized. “I see....” “I notice....” “I hear....”
What is Observation?
A consequence that happens naturally after a decision is made with little to no interference by staff members.
What is Natural Consequence.
This is the foundation of restorative practices. Developing and maintaining these between staff, children, and families is essential for creating a safe and welcoming community.
What are Relationships?
A written statement of regret of ones actions, words, or implications after a conflict or an argument.
What is a Letter of Apology?
Speaking over others, interrupting them, or cutting poeple off while whey are sharing
What is cross talk?
Is an empathic response to others, honestly express your feelings “I am worried because...... I feel frustrated..... I get excited.... I feel disappointed.....”
What is Feelings?
A consequence that is related, respectful, and reasonable.
What is Logical Consequence?
When mistakes are made or harm towards someone has occurred, members are accountable for their actions. Whether it is intentional or not, people acknowledge wrong- doing and might ask questions like "How did my actions affect others?" or "What part did I play in this situation?"
What is Responsibility?
A consequence that involves a participant fixing a mess left behind by a game, a spill or anything that may require a staff to put away.
What is Cleaning?
An item used to distinguish who is allowed to speak.
What is a talking piece?
A powerful skill to model ways of expressing our feelings and needs.
What is Affective Language?
What happened?
Who was affected?
What can you take responsibility for?
What needs to be done to make things right?
What are Four Restorative Questions?
Once everyone involved in a harmful situation takes responsibility for their part in it, we can begin to fix the relationships that were broken. This takes time and can come in many forms. Those who were harmed should be a part in determining what is needed for making a situation better.
What is Repair?
A participant who disrespects a staff member or another participant by making a mess of an activity or who damages or destroys another student's work could assist to tape it back together or help set up the next activity for the day.
What is Helping?
Language that is age and content appropriate and should be used during circle times.
What is Program Appropriate Language?
Values you share such as “I value cooperation.......” “ I need your help ..... “ “I need a safe center....” “I value fairness ....”
What are Needs?
Everyone getting what they need, not necessarily everyone getting the same thing.
The process of welcoming students back into the community in a positive and supportive way.
What is Reintegration?
A short conversation and where 2 people make a verbal agreement about how to improve the relationship or solve a problem.
What are Restorative Conversations?
allowing a participant to skip their turn in the circle and coming back to them at the end of the conversation.
What is a Pass?
“In the future....” “Would you be willing to...?” “My expectation is….”(State what you want, not what you don’t want.)
What are Expectation/Requests?
National and state statistics show that exclusionary discipline such as suspensions and expulsions are implemented in disproportionate ways towards this demographic.
What is students of color, students with learning disabilities, and boys