"I" Statements
This type of statement focuses on expressing feelings and needs without blaming others.
"I" Statments
When an adult refuses to let others speak and monopolizes every conversation during a family dinner, this is considered this
Disrespectful
What is the first part of the conflict cycle?
Stressful Event
This love language involves showing affection through physical touch, such as hugging a child before bed or a parent holding their teenager’s hand during a walk.
Physical Touch
A family that consistently makes choices that benefit the entire household, even if individual members must sacrifice something important, is likely to place a high value on this concept, which promotes putting the collective good ahead of personal gain.
Selflesness
Why can I statements be useful during conflict?
-focus on personal feelings rather than accusing or blaming the other person.
-express emotions in a healthy way
-focus on needs, not faults
- helps prevent misunderstanding
This is a behavior that involves listening to someone’s point of view, even if you disagree.
Respectful
Family members who consistently follow through on promises and support one another, even when it’s difficult, are exhibiting this green flag.
Reliability
A parent who wants to show their teenager they love them through words of affirmation might do this regularly to ensure it’s felt.
Sincere compliments, sending text, writing notes
A family that values this may have regular family meetings to discuss important matters and make decisions together.
Communication
good or bad: “I am upset because you didn’t keep your promise. You always say you’ll do something, but you never follow through.”
Bad
Interrupting someone, dismissing their feelings, or mocking their opinion in an argument are behaviors typically seen in this category.
Disrepectful
everyone respects each other's personal space and allows time for individual interests, which is a sign of this.
Boundaries
A mother expresses love by preparing her child’s favorite meal or making sure they have everything they need for school. This is an example of this love language.
Acts of service
parent might encourage their child to embrace failure as an essential part of growth. teaching them that mistakes are not to be feared, but seen as opportunities to develop perseverance and strength.
Resillience
Do we feel heard or do we become more defensive: “I feel hurt when we don’t spend enough time together. I need more quality time to feel connected with you.”
Heard
A parent sets clear boundaries with their teenager by saying, "I’m not okay with that behavior, but we can talk about it calmly." This is an example of this behavior.
Respectful
False
A parent who speaks the receiving gifts love language might feel hurt when their child shows little interest in material gifts, but simply wants quality time. What is an effective way for the parent to express love in this case?
learn to prioritize time spent together over physical gifts, perhaps by planning activities like outings or just sitting down for a conversation, to meet the child's emotional needs?
In a family where members consistently support one another through difficult situations, whether emotional, financial, or otherwise, this value manifests in a network of care that offers comfort and reassurance.
Emotional support
Good or bad: “I feel like you don’t care about my feelings when you don’t notice when I’m upset.”
Bad-I feel" but also implies judgment about the other person’s intentions, which could be interpreted as indirect blaming. (accusatory)
One partner often challenges the other’s opinions during conversations, questioning their decisions and offering alternative viewpoints in a way that encourages deeper thinking. While the partner insists they’re simply trying to help the other see things differently, the frequent challenges sometimes lead to feelings of frustration and being undermined, especially when the discussions are not welcomed.
open to discussion:)
When both individuals in a relationship can apologize sincerely without making excuses, take responsibility for their actions, and work to improve their behavior, they are demonstrating the key to maintaining mutual respect and a growth-oriented relationship.
Accountability
A parent who feels overwhelmed might interpret a teenager’s need for quality time as a desire for constant attention, leading to frustration instead of connection. To avoid this misunderstanding, what should the parent do?
have an open conversation to clarify how often the child needs one-on-one time and finding ways to integrate it into the family routine?
When one family member is making time for personal life while juggling many other things at the same time (ex. car payments, taking care of kids, being in a relationship, spending time with family)
Balance