anxiety
What’s a thought someone might have when they’re feeling anxious?
for example: "what if I mess up?"
what is personalization (hint: think of the circus hall of mirrors from earlier this week)
for example:
thinking everything is about you
(e.g., people are laughing at you, they are talking about you, etc)
what does it mean to give a passive response to a problem
for example: “This is when you ignore the problem or pretend it’s not there.
For example, you get a bad grade and just hide it, hoping it goes away.”
True or False: Being flexible means you always get your way.
false
What’s a BEHAVIOR people might do when they’re feeling nervous?
(Examples: fidget, avoid something, run away)
what is off-the-mark thinking?
e.g., thoughts that aren't realistic, make us feel sad, nervous, etc
what does it mean to have a reactive response to a problem?
for example: “This is when you overreact with big feelings right away.
For example, you crumple up your test, blame the teacher, and think, ‘I’m just bad at math!’”
what does it mean to be flexible
e.g., using both your body and your brain to stay calm, solve problems, and adapt when plans change
What’s some way your body might try to tell you that you are feeling anxious?
Example: stomachache, sweaty hands
name one type of off-the-mark thinking we learned and define it
e.g., personalization, catastrophizing, all-or nothing, filtering, etc
what does it mean to have a proactive response to a problem
e.g.,
“This is when you stay calm and make a plan to fix the problem.
For example, you think: ‘I didn’t do well on this test, so I’ll ask for help and study more next time.’”
why is it important to be flexible?
for example: so we can adapt and make the best out of a tough situation
Rewrite the script for this anxious thought:
"If I get even one answer wrong on this test, my teacher will be furious with me"
for example:
Everyone gets questions wrong sometimes so it's ok if I make a mistake
is this an on or off-the-mark thought:
"It's so unfair! I'm never talking to my friend again!"
off
what kind of response is this?
my pencil broke during my test so I threw it against the wall and left the classroom
reactive
Your sibling wants to watch their favorite show but you really dislike that show. Tell me a way you could be flexible in this moment
says something like: we can take turns watching our favorite shows, I can do something else and come back when the episode is over, etc...
for example: deep breathing, talk to a friend, etc...
You see your friends talking together without you and laughing. Provide an off-the-mark and on-the-mark thought for this scenario
for example:
off-the-mark: they must be laughing at me
on-the-mark: someone just told a funny joke and it has nothing to do with me
what does it mean when we Stop, Think, Act when dealing with a problem?
for example: stop before we have a big reaction, think of ways to problem solve, act on our plans
tell me about a time at camp this week where you had to be flexible
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