Healthy Ego
What does "ego" mean?
a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
What are some things that could make it difficult to make new friends?
not having self-confidence
social anxiety
trouble trusting others
lack of social skills
What movie grossed the most money of all time?
Hint: it's a superhero movie
Avengers: Endgame
What thoughts go through your head when you experience disappointment or failure?
"I'm a failure"
"I'm not good enough"
" I should have know better"
How can you avoid making a poor decision when under pressure?
Consider your options
reflect on what's important to you
Think about the consequences of your actions
take time to think before acting
Describe what it looks like when someone has a big ego or their ego is unhealthy.
Constant need for attention / validation
trouble with accepting criticism (Defensive)
Belittling others
Trouble listening to others
Being overly self-centered
How can you handle a disagreement with a friend?
Talk it out (respectfully)
Get an adult involved
Use "I statements"
Talk about it in therapy
What volcano destroyed Pompeii in 79 AD ?
Mount Vesuvius
Can disappointment work out later on?
Yes! Sometimes what we thought we wanted might not have been the best for us.
How do you know when you've made a good decision? What signs do you look for?
Feeling peaceful about the decision you've made
Feeling that the decision aligned with your values
Feeling like you grew from the experience
How can having a "big ego" affect your relationships?
Might ruin or complicate friendships
Might make others feel unheard
Makes communication harder
Difficulty reaching compromise
What's a healthy vs unhealthy friend?
Healthy: mutual respect, trust, support, being able to share emotions
Unhealthy: one sided relationships, frequent arguments, not feeling safe, feeling taken advantage of
When you get three strikes in bowling, what is it called?
A Turkey
What's a lesson you have learned from a past failure?
Multiple Answers
How do you know when you've made a poor decision? What signs do you look for?
ignoring red flags or your emotions
prioritizing the short term over the long term
feeling anxious about your decision
trying to convince yourself you made the right decision
What are signs of a healthy ego?
Accepting strengths and weaknesses
Learning from mistakes
Listening to others
Trying to grow and improve
How can you deal with jealousy or competition in friendships?
Being open about your emotions
setting boundaries
using "I statements"
processing your emotions in therapy
practice empathy
What is the largest bone in the human body?
What are some healthy ways to deal with disappointment instead of shutting down or getting angry?
Coping skills
Talking to an adult
Being open about your emotions in therapy
Getting support from a friend or family member
What happens when someone doesn't take responsibility for their actions?
Hurts relationships
Missed opportunities / lack of change
Manipulation
Struggling with accountability / consequences
How can having too little of an ego affect your self-esteem?
might make someone afraid of failure
self-doubt
might make it harder for you to reach your goals
can make it difficult to make new connections
Show you value friendship
Be a good friend to them :)
Be trustworthy
Show respect
In honor of Black History Month in February and Women's History Month in March.
How long did the Montgomery Bus Boycott last and what event started it?
381 days and started with Rosa Parks refusing to give up her seat
How can practicing self-compassion (being kind to yourself) help when dealing with disappointment?
creates resiliency
helps us learn from setbacks
helps us acknowledge our emotions
How can peer pressure affect decision-making, and what are some ways to resist it?
Prioritizing other's opinions over our own values or valuing short term fulfillment over long term goals
Ways to resist:
practice boundaries
find friends that are a good influence