True or False
Saying "I'm going to hurt you" is NOT emotionally unsafe, because you do not carry out the action.
False. Any threats to harm, even if not completed, are emotionally unsafe.
Your sister is making a lot of noise and/or being annoying while you're doing something and you feel overwhelmed.
Any of these:
1) "I'm having a hard time with the noise right now".
2)Use headphones if needed.
3)Go to a different room.
Arms raised in an aggressive manner
Sad face. This could be threatening to someone. This even counts as physically unsafe!
Emotionally unsafe
When others are in fear of being hurt physically or are getting their feelings hurt. This can include getting into someone's personal space or violating their boundaries.
You are angry and you want to run out of the house. What is a coping skill you can use instead?
Examples could be taking a break in another room, playing with the puppy etc.
Saying you are going to run out of the house is emotionally unsafe.
True. This is a threat that makes others worry about your safety.
Your sister wants to play with you (i.e. game) and you are not in the mood.
- Share your thoughts/feelings
- Provide a clear response ("yes I will play with you" or "no thank you")
Locking others inside or outside of the house
Sad face
Coping skills
Things that a person can use to deal with stressful situations to calm down, feel better, and manage their emotions.
Where are some safe places to take a break when I need space and time for myself?
1)my room
2)basement
3)back porch
4) piano room
5) exercise room
It is okay to keep asking a family member something after they have already responded.
False
Your sister is arguing with one or both of your parents
Stay where I am at and not interfere unless it is an emergency (I need medical help or one of my parents call me to come over if there is a question about something).
Being respectful to property and objects
Smiley face
Threats
A statement intending to inflict pain, injury, damage or other hostile action on someone.
You have had a really long/tough day with virtual school, what coping skill could you use once the school day is over?
Examples could include listen to music, go for a walk, talk with a family member, take a nap, play with the dogs
Shushing someone else repeatedly is a good way to respond when you are annoyed.
False
Adults are having a private conversation and I want to play with them or join the conversation.
Ask if I can play with them right now or ask if I can join the conversation.
If they say yes then you can join and if no then you will respect the adult boundaries.
Telling someone "I'm mad at you right now."
Smiley face
Physically unsafe
Anything that threatens or carries out harm to self or others
What are three coping skills/tools I can use when at home?
Variety of options could be correct including...
- Stuffed animals, pets, slime, doing homework, ice cube/ice pop
- Taking deep breaths
- Taking a break in room or other area
- Talking with family member for support
I will not get a negative consequence and/or frowny face for saying how I feel and/or what I need in that moment (once) in a calm tone and safe manner.
True. Expressing oneself is encouraged even if you are not able to get what you want right there.
Continuing to ask once the person says no, yelling or pleading for something is no longer safe.
I start having negative thoughts about a situation like "She's doing this on purpose" "She wants me to get a frowny face," "She/he's being unfair"....
Challenge my thinking to a more helpful thought
Throwing an object against the wall
Sad face
Respecting boundaries
Respect when others need space, want to be alone, don't walk to talk in that moment, respect when asked to stop. This also means respecting adults having time together and interrupting adult conversations.
Give two examples of ways to express your thoughts and feelings in a calm manner/tone when you are unhappy or angry.
1) I feel_____when you_____because_____.
2)(Person's name), When you do this __(behavior)_____ I feel _____.
3) I'm feeling_______ because______.
4) Any other statements using feeling words.