Envy
What is the name of the skill you should use when you are experiencing envy?
Flexible Mind DARES (to let go)
What is the name of the skill you should use when you are feeling cynical and bitter?
Flexible Mind is LIGHT
What is the name of the skill you should practice when you want to work on forgiveness?
Flexible Mind has HEART
How long should self-enquiry practices last?
roughly five minutes
How do you determine if you are experiencing unhelpful envy?
Use the questions on 187. The more boxes you have checked the greater the likelihood you are experiencing unhelpful envy.
If you have more boxes checked off for the L in the LIGHT skill, is your bitterness high or low?
High. The more boxes checked off the more bitter you are.
True or False: Forgiveness means approving or denying the past
False
When do you use self-enquiry in the LIGHT skill?
L-Label bitterness using self-enquiry
What is one way you can go opposite to envious anger?
Practiced seeing other perspectives and look for reasons someone may deserve the advantage
What is one way that cynics help society?
Challenge the status quo, whistle blow, question new ideas etc.
What skill do you have to use to practice the E in this skill?
Self-enquiry to locate your edge
Self-enquiry brings us closer to our own personal "_ _ _ _"
Edge; Growth edge
What does the A stand for in the DARES skill?
Admit your envy by labeling it and decide if you want to let it go?
What are two ways you can go opposite to unjustified isolation and cynicism?
look for positive news, practice loving kindness mediation, look for similarities with others, celebrate diversity, fully listening without judgement, turned your mind from unhelpful thoughts, highlight positive events in your own life, remember times when you experienced warmth and closeness from others etc.
At what point in the forgiveness skill should you use the forgiveness script (handout 29.3)?
R-reclaim your life by grieving your loss and practicing forgiveness
What is one self-enquiry question you could ask yourself when practicing the E in the HEART skill?
See page 197 and 198
What are the three steps of going opposite to shameful envy?
Practice living within your values, go opposite to shame, and turn unhelpful envy into admiration if you desire a closer relationship.
What do the H and T stand for in this skill AND what is one way you can practice the H and T?
Help others and allow others to help me-random acts of kindness, letting go of fears that others will see you as weak for being kind, asked for help when needed, let go of expectations, give and receive compliments, increased prosocial behavior, resting and rewarding self etc.
Practice Thankfulness toward self and others-use thankfulness script, Big 3+1, approach situations that generated positive emotions, express cheerfulness, practice humility, gave people the benefit of the doubt, practiced being grateful etc.
What are 3 things that "Forgiveness is" for this skill? (hint: look at handout 29.1)
taking care of ourselves, take responsibility for our emotional reactions, living in line with our values, staying focused on the present, a voluntary choice, ongoing commitment, remembering that humans harm and have been harmed, letting go of the past in order to not be controlled by it, gaining freedom from the burden of the past, and a process that takes time
Finish this sentence: Self-enquiry is not about finding a good ____; it's about finding a good _____
answer; question