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Forgiveness McMinn
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Integration
100

This person died on a cross to forgive our sins

 Jesus


100
This person defined transference and countertransference.

Freud

100

Alice Miller (p. 252) rebukes colleagues who advocate forgiveness. She believes forgiveness is:

a. detrimental

b. helpful

c. done out of a moral obligation

d. A & C

D. Detrimental because it is done out of moral obligation

100

Define forgiveness

to cease to feel resentment against (an offender) 

 to give up resentment of or claim to requital 

 the excusing of an offense without a penalty to free from penalty

100

 1 of the 5 Characteristics of Integrative Christian Counselors is to recognize the potential damage of introducing forgiveness too ____

  •  early
200

This person was asked three times if he loved Jesus when we see him forgiven: 

Peter


200

These are feeling projected onto the counselor by the client

Transference

200

According to Jared Pingleton (p. 255) therapist should attempt to cultivate in clients what are the essential elements of forgiveness:

A. it can only be received from God if given to others

B. Can only be given to others if received from self

C. Can only be given to self if received from God.

D. All the above.

D. All the above.

200

There are this many phases in the Enright Model of Forgiveness

4

200

Refusing to forgive places us _____ others!

above

300

These people were forgiven for building a golden calf: 

The Israelites


300

These are feelings projected onto the client by the counselor


countertransference

300

This is the most frequently used religious intervention among Christian counselors p. 273

forgiveness

300

Name 1 question from phase 1 

Help the client to understand the psychological defenses happening within them.

Help them recognize and acknowledge the anger they feel, and evaluate the psychological harm caused by the offense (Akhtar & Barlow, 2018).

  •  To what extent have I denied/attempted to forget – that I was hurt and the suffering that I experienced as a result?  
  • Have I avoided feeling and dealing with my anger & suffering? In what ways?
  • In what ways have I tried to feel and face my anger? 
  •  To what extent do I avoid exposing, or experiencing any shame or guilt? 
  • In what ways does my unresolved anger affect my physical and emotional health, relationships, and work productivity? 
  • To what extent am I obsessed or preoccupied with how I was offended and/or with my offender?  
  • To what extent do I compare my own life situation with that of my offender? 
  • To what extent has the offense caused permanent, difficult change(s) in my life? 
  • How has the offense changed my worldview, i.e., in what ways do I now believe or perceive that “the world” – or God – are (no longer) as just or loving?  (Sutton, 2012)
300

A professional challenge of knowing when to forgive clients versus when we need to do this ____ (when they are late.)

impose consequences

400

Finish this line: Forgive us our tresspasses 

. . . .as we forgive those who trespass against us


400

Name three types of transference and countertransference

positive, negative, erotic

400

The primary difference between Christian forgiveness and secular forgiveness is that Christian forgiveness  is done out of gratitude for God's forgives when secular forgiveness is done for this reason p. 275

to feel better or unload emotional baggage.

400

Phase 2 is  Decision Making - help the client gain an accurate understanding of the nature of forgiveness and makes a decision to commit to forgiving on the basis of this understanding. Name 1 question. 

  • What is – and isn’t – forgiveness? 
  • To what extent do I experience that, although I have tried – or am sincerely trying – to forgive, I realize that emotionally I haven’t? 
  • What stops me from courageously confronting my offender’s unjust actions toward me – both internally and directly? 
  • To what extent may I “idolize” or “demonize” my offender – i.e., regard him or her either as not needing my forgiveness or as being unforgivable? 
  • Am I willing to consider forgiving my offender (i.e., willing to become willing to forgive?) 
  • What hasn’t worked for me so far in trying to forgive my offender? 
  • What stops me from being (or becoming more) willing to try to forgive now? 
  •  To what extent have I decided to forgive – am I committed to trying to forgive now – (perhaps again)? (Sutton, 2012)
400

Ultimately, we do not deserve forgiveness and we cannot earn it, yet the Triune God gives it to us in this way.

unconditionally

500

Name one thing the Bible says about forgiveness

 (open answer)

500

One way a counselor can recognize vulnerabilities as a counselor is to

seek personal counseling

500

Daily double

One danger of rushing forgiveness to meet cost-effective needs from insurance companies is that rushing forgiveness is done at the _____ level rather than based on deep understanding p. 277


Superficial, intellectual

500

Phase 4 -Deepening - help the client find meaning in their suffering (Akhtar & Barlow, 2018). 

State 1 question you could ask.



  • In what ways have I grown through my efforts to feel & deal with my suffering & anger, & to act with compassion & and mercy toward my offender.  
  • In what ways have my efforts to forgive set me free – freed from unwanted emotional suffering and freed for having a better relationship with the offender (perhaps), others, myself and God? 
  • In what ways do I recognize that I am not alone in my suffering – that others share my suffering & I theirs, whether we suffer for the same reasons or not?  
  • To what extent have I discovered my own need to be forgiven, to seek and ask for forgiveness, perhaps even from my offender, or from someone else whom I have offended? 
  • What meaning am I discovering in and through my suffering and my trying to forgive and, if appropriate, to be forgiven? 
  • What am I learning about my purpose in life & how I may be called to help others (Sutton, 2012)?
500

This involves the counselor's reaction to a client’s transference, and it may be influenced by the therapist's unresolved conflicts rather than the client-therapist relationship

Countertransference