The Basics
The first rule of ROX
Confidentiality: What we say in here stays in here
This type of communication means going along to please others, not voicing your opinions or concerns, not standing up for yourself
Passive
33% of girls say they don't disagree with others or say what they're thinking because they want to be liked
FALSE!
55% report this. 33% reported feeling this way in 2017 so it has gone up a LOT.
T or F: There is both good AND bad stress
True!
This word means to walk in someone else's shoes.
Empathy
Give an example of a personal boundary
Not allowing others to hug/touch you without your permission
Not allowing friends or family to speak down to you/disrespect you
Saying no to anything that makes you uncomfortable
Saying no to extra work when you are overwhelmed
Respect others idea's and expect them to respect mine
Spend my time wisely and set aside time for myself
What ROX stands for
Ruling Our Experiences
This is one of the only situations in which Aggressive Behavior is appropriate.
When we are fighting for our safety
The number one concern that girls across the country report they face is DRAMA.
TRUE
This % of girls reporting putting pressure on themselves to be perfect (must answer within 10% of correct answer)
65%
People might say they are bossy
Give two examples of something that could be considered "good" stress
Nerves before a big game/competition/concert
Nerves when talking to your crush/excitement over meeting someone you like
Learning something new you are excited about
Working hard to complete a project
Landing a new job/your first job
Thinking about or planning for college
These are limits and rules we set for ourselves within our relationships
Personal Boundaries
This is the best kind of communication to use to stand up for ourselves and solve conflicts
Assertive Communication
By the time girls get to high school, 58% report they are actually happy with the way they look
FALSE
Only 24% report being happy with the way they are.
58% report they want to change at least one thing about their appearance
Symptoms that show you are experiencing stress (at least 3)
heart racing, sweating, restless/fidgety, cannot focus, forgetting important things, sleeping more or less than normal, headaches/stomach aches, constantly feeling overwhelmed, difficulty relaxing, being easily irritated
A supportive adult
Name 3 things from the ROX Pledge
I am strong, independent and corageous
I am not defined by others, by society or the media
My self-confidence comes from within
I am confident, capable and respectful
I am in control of how I treat others and myself
My self-respect influences my decisions
I will value others experiences and they will value mine
We are all valuable, important and worthy of support and respect
This is one of the biggest reasons drama occurs
Girls have a difficult time being Assertive and are not taught how to do so
What is this called?
I feel...
When you...
I need you to...
"I" statement
25% of 9th grade girls report they have been asked to send an inappropriate photo
FALSE
Research shows that 51% report being asked to send them and researchers believe these numbers are actually low
Name FOUR NEGATIVE coping skills
Isolation, withdrawing, ignoring the problem, drinking/smoking/using substances, physical aggression/fighting, over-eating/not eating, self-harm, overworking to avoid the problem, procrastination, impulsive shopping/spending
Which type of girl typically gets more attention? Pretty or smart?
Pretty
Name four of our assertive rights
Say No and speak up when uncomfortable
Be competent and proud of my accomplishments
Feel and express anger or disappointment in appropriate ways
Be treated as an individual with unique thoughts and feelings.....
Name FIVE things we have covered this year so far
Teambuilding, Communication, Navigating Peer Relationships, Body Image, Media Influence, Social Media, Conflict Resolution, Developing Supportive Connections, Stress, Coping skills
What is expressing negative emotions/feelings in a subtle quiet way through verbal and non verbal cues meant to hurt others?
Passive Aggressive
More men than women attend college
FALSE: Currently about 51% of people in college are female
Name 5 positive coping skills
Talking about it, coloring/drawing, taking a walk/physical activity, deep breathing, meditation, writing/journaling, listening to music, spend time with friends
What often effects how girls feel about themselves today?
Social Media
Give two examples of using Assertive responses to communicate a problem
answers will vary