PT & Coping Tools
What is perspective-taking?
To be flexible by seeing & understanding things in different ways.
Step #1 is to decide if you want to talk to the other person.
Name at least ONE deciding factor.
• Physical appearance (e.g., face, outfit, jewelry, etc.)
• Other person’s belongings (e.g., purse or bag, sunglasses, toys, etc.)
• Sharing a mutual relation with the other person
• Etc.
Name at least TWO topics you could focus on when starting a conversation.
• Weekend, holiday, or birthday plans
• Weather
• Hobbies
• Favorite foods, TV shows, books, games, etc.
What is the 1st step to dealing with being left out?
Think about what made you feel left out.
Step #1 is to look for signs for a problem (how you feel, what the other person said to you, & how the other person acted towards you).
How might each of these things look like?
• How you feel on the inside (e.g., sad, worried, frustrated, etc.)
• What the other person said to you (e.g., unkind words)
• How the other person acted towards you (e.g., physical & verbal aggression)
Why is perspective-taking an important skill?
It allows us to understand things in different ways, which makes it easier to get along with others.
Step #2 is to decide if it’s a good time.
Name at least ONE potential sign of it being a good time to talk.
• In varying locations, when you & the other person aren’t busy with anyone or anything
• At school, during lunch and/or recess
• Etc.
When is it a good time to START a conversation?
• Home, vacation, etc. - When others aren’t busy with other people or tasks
• School - During lunch & recess
What is the 2nd step to dealing with being left out?
Think about your 3 choices:
• Ask to join in
• Find someone else to hangout with
• Do an activity you enjoy
Step #2 is to think about what may have caused the problem.
Name at least ONE indicator that there’s a problem.
What is the name of the technique we can use in order to calm down?
STOP-OPT-GO technique.
Step #3 is to walk up to the person you want to talk to.
Why is it important not to walk up too close OR far?
• Too close - We all need our own space
• Too far - We wouldn’t be able to hear the other person
When is it a good time to END a conversation?
• Home, vacation, etc. - When others are busy with other people or tasks, during bedtime, etc.
• School - When the teacher is talking or while completing classwork & tests
What is the 3rd step to dealing with being left out?
Act out your best choice(s).
Step #3 is to ask other people about their thoughts on their situation.
Why is this an important step?
It allows us to understand other peoples’ perspectives, which can help us to make an appropriate decision about what to do next.
What are we suppose to do when we use the STOP-OPT-GO technique?
STOP - Pause what we’re doing
OPT - Think about a few coping tools to use
GO - Use a coping tool
Step #4 is to finally introduce yourself.
Name at least TWO things you could share when introducing yourself to another person.
• Name
• Age
• # of siblings and/or pets
• Favorite color(s), animal(s), hobbies/activities, etc.
Name at least ONE appropriate way to END a conversation.
• “Can we talk another time?”
• “Let’s talk at another time!”
• “Hey, I got to go!”
• Etc.
Tegan goes over to Sadie & Madison to see what they are up to. However, Sadie & Madison don’t notice Tegan.
What are the 3 steps Tegan should take?
• Step #1 - Think about what made Tegan feel that way.
• Step #2 - Think about her choices (ask to join in, choose someone else to hangout with, do an activity you enjoy)
• Step #3 - Act out her best choice(s)
Name at least THREE coping tools you can utilize while you’re on vacation.
Step #5 is to wait for the other person to introduce themself before you continue the conversation.
What if the other person doesn’t introduce themself?
Then ask them for their name yourself.
How can we start & end a conversation in a friendly way?
Hint: Think about your facial & body cues!
• Facial cues → Making eye contact with the other person, smiling, etc.
• Body cues → Keeping arms & legs to ourselves
Tegan sees a group of kids hanging out by the pool. Tegan goes over to introduce herself & hangout with them, but the kids don’t introduce themselves or give attention to Tegan.
What are the 3 steps that Tegan should take?
• Step #1 - Think about what made Tegan feel that way.
• Step #2 - Think about her choices (ask to join in, choose someone else to hangout with, do an activity you enjoy)
• Step #3 - Act out her best choice(s)