Relationship Skills
Ask others if your belief is accurate
What is 'Ask others'?
If overwhelmed, go slower; if stagnant, go faster
What is 'Pace yourself'?
Listen to yourself with respect and care
What is 'Compassion'?
Let yourself cry; it will not last forever
What is 'Cry'?
Do whatever you need to do to put your safety above all
What is 'Stay safe'?
Before you accept criticism or advice, notice who's telling it to you
What is 'Notice the source'?
A productive schedule keeps you on track and connected to the real world
What is 'Structure your day'?
Evaluate both sides of the picture
What is 'Examine the evidence'?
If you suspect danger, stay away
What is 'When in doubt, don't'?
Just keep moving forward; the only way out is through
What is 'Trust the process'?
Tell people what you need
What is 'Get others to support your recovery'?
Don't wait until you feel motivated; just start now
What is 'Actions first, and feelings will follow'?
What is 'Create a new story'?
Promise yourself to do what's right to help your recovery
What is 'Make a commitment'?
What is 'Persist'?
If only treaters are safe for now, that's okay
What is 'Alone is better than a bad relationship'?
Find a healthy way to celebrate anything you do right
What is 'Reward yourself'?
Remind yourself what you are living for: Your children? Love? Truth? Justice? God?
What is 'Create meaning'?
Listen to your behavior; blaming prevents growth
What is 'Seek understanding, not blame'?
What is 'Inspire yourself'?
You'll feel closer to others (but only do this with safe people)
What is 'Say what you really think'?
Be specific, set a deadline, and let others know about it
What is 'Set an action plan'?
Recognize substances as an attempt to self-medicate
What is 'Link PTSD and substance abuse'?
If it feels awkward or difficult, you're doing it right
What is 'Expect growth to feel uncomfortable'?
List the aspects of your life you do control (e.g., job, friends)
What is 'Notice what you can control'?