Types of Anger
This type of anger usually describes someone who is aggressive towards whatever triggered their anger. This can be someone who always seems to act out or is troublesome. Sometimes the outcome is physical abuse or attacks against others.
Behavioral Anger
This phase is characterized by making extreme promises because the person is feeling shame and regret.
Honeymoon phase
This is an experience that threaten one's self-esteem or sense of worth, such as criticism, rejection or failure, which activates underlying feeling of shame.
How many phases are in the escalation cycle?
Seven
In order to defuse your anger before it gets out of control, you;'ll want to develop one of these, which list out things you can do to calm yourself down.
Anger Plan
This type of anger is a key factor in driving people to want join movements and groups. It's the feeling of being fed up with how things are going, and the need to make a positive change.
Constructive Anger
This phase is characterized by yelling, hitting, kicking, choking, pushing, screaming, intimidating, punching walls, and throwing objects.
Explosion Phase
Instead of sitting with the vulnerable pain of shame, the person uses anger to shield themselves. This may involve blowing up, lashing out at others, or displacing aggression onto a different target. What is this called?
Anger as Protection
This is the initial stage, where an individual is in a stable and composed state.
Calm
This can be a useful tool to help you track your experiences with anger. Make daily entries that document the situations you encounter that provoked you. Then use this information to predict what future situations will provoke you.
Anger Diary
This type of anger never let others know they are angry.
Sneaky Anger
This is the ego state that is the reasonable part of us that is always willing to learn.
Adult
The destructive actions that result from the anger, such as damaging relationships or saying hurtful things, create a new source of shame and regret, reinforcing the initial feeling of inadequacy. What is this called?
Reinforced Shame
This is the 3rd stage. Individuals in this stage begin to experience a heightened emotional state, often characterized by frustration, annoyance and anger.
Escalation
After you record information in your anger diary, look for reoccurring themes or "these" that make you mad.
Triggers
Some people want or need the strong feeling that come with anger. They like the intensity even if they don't like the trouble their anger causes them.
Addictive Anger
This is the phase that is characterized by underestimating how damaging the small and annoying "pinpricks" can be.
Tension Phase
Breaking the pattern of shame and anger requires addressing the root shame instead of using anger to cover it. An effective strategy involves practicing "this", to counteract the inner critic fueling the shame. It can also sever the chain that links you to the past.
Self-Compassion and Forgiveness
This is the 5th stage. The person may exhibit behaviors such as, physical aggression, or severe verbal outburst.
Crisis
This is the automatic thought pattern where you assume the other person meant to harm you deliberately.
Deliberate Intent
This is a nasty anger style that happens when someone decides that at least one other person is totally evil or bad. Forgiving the other person seems impossible. Instead, the person vows to despise the offender. This starts as anger and does not get resolved.
Hate
This is the ego state that is the part of us that learned to be nurturing.
Nurturing Parent
Humiliated Fury
Recovery
When you feel "this" in your anger, you are giving yourself permission to feel angry.
Justified