Say it better - make it an "I" statement
"I hate you, you're so mean to me"
"I don't like it when you ..." or "I am feeling frustrated that you did that." etc
The weather outside.
Outside of my control
breaking the boundary of privacy
I dropped my ice cream on the ground and don't have any more. I start to cry. How do I feel?
You don't know the answer on a test
try your best; take a deep breath; skip and come back; ask your teacher for help
"wow you jerk"
"I think that was rude"
How well I do on a test
Inside of my control
Telling a new friend about your prefered topics and interests
What is within appropriate boundaries
It is Christmas morning and I see my presents under the tree
excitement
Your sibling is getting grounded for breaking the remote but it was really you by accident
tell the truth; calmly explain the mistake and try to fix it
"Leave me alone!"
"I need some space right now"
If my brother is in the mood to play with me or not
outside of my control
Watching the new superman movie on TV after you finished your homework.
what is within appropriate boundaries
A friend throws up in class and has to be sent to nurse
disgust; worried
You aren't invited to your friends birthday party
ask him why; find alternative plans; explain how you are feeling
"You can't play with us"
"I would prefer to play this on my own right now"
what someone else thinks or says about me
outside of my control
Your parents make you a list to get done before bed. You look at the clock and realize you have to leave in 1 hour and haven't started your chores.
what is breaking the boundaries of time management and responsiblity
I was promised a pool party for my birthday, but it was raining all day so we had to move the party inside.
disappointment
You are speaking with a friend at school and they stop responding and look away.
Change the topic, ask them a question, ask if they are alright etc
"This school sucks"
"I feel frustrated this isn't going my way" or "I need ... (space, help, a break etc)"
How I react when a friend is mean to me
inside my control
Storming outside when you are frustrated without communicating where you are going.
what is outside of the boundaries of safety
I get the wrong answer in class and a friend pointed and laughed at me
embarrassment; anger
At football practice a classmate is pushing you and calling you names
calmly ask them to stop; tell your coach you need help with a teammate respecting your boundaries.