Calming Down
Why is it a good idea to calm down before you think about what to do next?
What is: You think more clearly when you're calm
What is the first step to take when you have a problem?
What is: Say the problem
What does it mean to be respectful?
What is: being helpful, polite, fair, using good manners, saying hello, not being mean, not calling names, not using put-downs
You are talking to a classmate in the hallway before school. She just had an argument with her best friend. You are listening to her with attention as she tells you how sad she is feeling. You understand how she feels. You've felt sad after having an argument with a friend too. You are:
a. Feeling happy that you are not her
b. Having empathy for her
c. Thinking she will not have many friends
d. Wondering why she is so sad
What is: b. Having empathy for her
Name two strong feelings
What is: Frustrated, angry, mad, sad, nervous
What is the second step when you have a problem?
What is: Think of solutions
Name a few things you should you do to listen with attention
What is: Focus on the person's words, don't interrupt, ask questions to find out more, repeat what you heard to show you understand
What are some things you can do to help you calm down?
What is: Breathe, count, use positive self-talk
What is the third step to take when you have a problem?
What is: Explore consequences
Some kids at the after-school program are starting to play a board game. It looks like it could be fun. Which of the following is the best way for you to join in?
a. Aggressively say that you know all about how to play the game
b. Wait a long time for them to ask you if you want to play
c. Ask a question about the game, then politely ask if you can play too.
d. Wait until they start playing, then ask them to stop what they are doing and let you play.
What is: c. Ask a question about the game, then politely ask if you can play too.
Name the 3 calming-down steps.
What is: Stop, name your feeling, calm down
What is the final step to take when you have a problem?
What is: Pick the best solution
Select the best example of being assertive when someone cuts in front of you in line:
a. Hey, get out of the way!
b. Oh.. I don't know, but I think I was in front of you, maybe.
c. Who do you think you are-the king of the world?
d. It is not okay to cut in front of me. The end of the line is back there.
What is:
d. It is not okay to cut in front of me. The end of the line is back there.
Garrett's older brother gave him his old bike. Garrett is very excited. He rides the bike to the park to meet you. Unfortunately, on the way to the park something hits his wheel and bends the spokes. he is very disappointed. What is a compassionate thing you could do for Garrett?
a. Tell him "it's just a bike- no big deal"
b. Tell him you are sorry about the wheel and you can ask an adult to help fix it
c. It's best not to say anything
d. Wish Garrett had gone a different way to the park
What is: b. Tell him you are sorry about the wheel and you can ask an adult to help fix it
You were having trouble paying attention when your teacher explained what to do for a social studies project. Now everyone is getting started, and you don't know what you're supposed to do. The best thing to do is:
a. Just do the project the way you want
b. Assertively ask your teacher how to do it
c. Read a book instead
d. Wait quietly at your desk and hope someone comes to help you
What is: b. Assertively ask your teacher how to do it
Give 2 examples of positive self-talk.
What is: I'm sure there's a way we can work this out. I'm not going to make a big deal out of this.
How can the problem-solving steps help you solve problems?
What is: Not blaming others, being respectful, help you think clearly, help you compromise
Respect is
What is: Respect is treating others the way you want to be treated
Your best friends dog died. How can you show him/her empathy?
What is: Listen, saying sorry for your loss, make him/her a card, being there for them, etc.
You are playing a game at recess and you notice that someone on the other team is cheating. You become so angry!
What are some ways you can calm down?
a. Belly Breathe
b. Count to 10
c. Tell yourself: "Chill, maybe he or she doesn't know the rules"
d. Call the kid a cheater making sure everyone hears you
What is:
a. Belly Breathe
b. Count to 10
c. Tell yourself: "Chill, maybe he or she doesn't know the rules"