Relationship Skills
Say "no" to protect yourself
Set a boundary
Find a healthy way to celebrate anything you do right
reward yourself
Talk to yourself very gently (as if to a friend or a small child)
Soothing talk
Never, never, never, never give up
Persist
What is brown and sticky?
A stick!
Before you accept criticism or advice, notice who's telling it to you
Notice the source
Be specific, set a deadline, and let others know about it
Action plan
Listen to yourself with respect and care
Compassion
No feeling is final, just get through it safely
tolerate the feeling
What did Baby Corn say to Mama Corn?
Where's Pop Corn?
Tell people what you need
Get others to support your recovery
If overwhelmed go slower, if stagnant go faster
Pace yourself
Really see the impact for tomorrow, next week and next year
Think of the consequences
Just keep moving forward, the only way out is through
trust the process
What did the evil chicken lay?
Deviled eggs
If only treaters are safe for now, that's okay
Alone is better than a bad relationship
Put something between you and danger
Create a buffer
Remind yourself what you are living for (children, love, God)
Create meaning
If it feels awkward or difficult, you're doing it right
expect growth to feel uncomfortable
What do you call a hippie’s wife?
Mississippi
You'll feel closer to others (but only do this with safe people)
Say what you really think
Don't wait until you are motivated; just start now
Actions first, and feeling will follow
Recognize substances as as attempt to self medicate
Link PTSD and substance use
Do what you can to make today better. Don't get overwhelmed by past/future
Focus on now
What do you call a snitching scientist?
A lab rat