IFABS
What does IFAB stand for?
I Feel About Because
Name the 4F's
fight, flight, freeze, fawn
Holding ______ from the beginning, can help with deescalation automatically.
boundaries
What is the definition of ACES
Adverse childhood experiences
Who is the youngest person at SMC?
Azcuena
What FLY SEL skills do IFABs relate to (name 2)
self awareness, self advocacy, social awareness, critical thinking
Why is knowing the 4Fs important for your work?
If we lack awareness on how we function, it is more likely we react instead of respond
Give 5 deescalation/regulation tools
dragon's breath, crying, working out, sleep, sour candy, tea, square breathing, etc.
List the four attachment styles
BONUS: list their relationship with their caregiver
Secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized
Bonus:
secure: trusting, predictable
anxious: unpredictable, somewhat responsive
avoidant: dismissed/ neglected
disorganized: chaotic, unsafe
How many people have worked more than 3 years at FLY
maria, mel, josh, adriana,
What is one SEL tool that we offered if you are struggling to create an IFAB?
Feelings Wheel
What are stress responses shaped by?
temperament and past experiences/ survival/ trauma
List two situations in which repair would be helpful
If rapport was already "spent" during a situation prior; if boundaries were crossed/ break in trust
Can our consistency with youth support a safer attachment style? How?
Yes. Consistency= predictability and safety
ex: active listening, supporting their choices, being emotionally responsive
How many people at SMC can speak another language
Name 3 situations where an IFAB can be utilized.
Why does someone fawn? BONUS: How does someone break out of that
to people please, emotional safety and peace
BONUS: safety, regulate, know your needs, communicate
You want to repair the tension between your boss and yourself. Give two examples of how you would start that conversation.
Use of M.I, IFABS, etc.
- "I've noticed this tension between us, why do you think this is happening?"
- "How can we move forward comfortably with each other?"
- "I feel uncomfortable about the tension we have because it is difficult to focus/ work together"
How do aces and attachment work together?
Aces describes what happened
Attachment shows us how we adapted
How many people have tattoos at SMC
hella people
You notice your coworker behaving distant/passive lately. How can you help them work through it with an IFAB to understand what is happening for them?
Give an example of a clear IFAB
Name one grounding tool per 4 F
Fight- rapport, boundaries, temp, breathing
Flight-breathing, rhythm, music, smells
Freeze- temp, sensory, music, smells
Fawn- walking, breathing, hugs, smells
A youth calls you and tells you, “I hate my life, everything is pointless, I don’t want to be here anymore. Please don’t tell anyone.” As a FLY staff, you want to make sure they're safe, but not promise secrecy. How do you maintain boundaries while using deescalation tools?
Give an example of how each attachment style may respond to conflict.
Secure: They're safe and trust they will be able to communicate through the conflict. The other person will stay.
Anxious: Unsure if the other person will stay or leave. Feels threatened by the conflict. Tends to be more proactive.
Avoidant: Feels threatened, but feels safer by not addressing conflict/ does not know how to.
Disorganized: unsure if the other person will stay or not. Feels threatened by conflict. Anxious about not addressing it.