Consent
What is consent?
Giving permission
What is a boundary?
A limit or expectation
Your friend is talking about an uncomfortable topic. You want them to stop. What could you say?
"I don't really like this topic, can you talk about it somewhere else?"
"I'm going to move because I don't want to hear you talk about this."
"Can we change the subject?"
When is "no" an okay answer for consent?
Any time! No is a full sentence.
How do you know when you have consent?
They have said the word YES
Personal space
Types of wanted touch (hugs/high fives)
Ownership over personal things
A classmate asks if they can have some of your lunch and you don’t want to share. What could you say?
"My mom made this special for me, I don't want to share today."
"Please don't take my food."
Can you change your mind to "no" if you told someone "yes" before?
Yes! Your response can change any time.
Do you have consent if someone said yes before?
No, they have to say it again.
What is one of your boundaries? Answers vary.
I only like hugs from my friends.
I don't like being picked up.
I don't like when people touch my hair.
You hear your friends talking behind your back and it’s hurting your feelings. What could you say?
"I don't like when you talk about me behind my back."
"Please stop talking about me."
How could you say no to your aunt who always squeezes you too tight and kisses your cheeks when she sees you?
"I love you but I'd rather greet you with a high five."
"Auntie, I feel uncomfortable with this type of touch."
Do grownups also need to ask for your consent?
Yes!
What can you say if someone crosses a boundary and makes you feel uncomfortable?
I didn't like when you...
Please stop...
It's not okay for you to...
Someone is sitting too close to you. What could you say?
"I need some space, could you please move a little?"
"I'm feeling uncomfortable, I'm going to scoot over."
Your best friend is playing with your hair at lunch but for some reason today you don't feel comfortable with it. What could you say?
"I don't want my hair played with today, please stop."
"Yesterday I was okay with you touching my hair but today I don't want you to."
What is a situation where you should ask for consent?
- Asking for a hug
- Asking to borrow something
- Telling someone something personal
What could you say if someone tells you "no" or to "stop"?
Okay!
I'm sorry I made you feel...
I will give you space.
Sing or say the main lines of "The Boundary Song"
Please stop. I don't like that. I'm feeling uncomfortable. I need more space. Not around me. Don't take it personally. It's just a boundary!
Should you be upset or hurt if someone sets a boundary and tells you no?
No! It is not about you, try not to take it personally!