Identifying the Moment (When & Who)
You are in the middle of a math test and your pencil lead breaks. Who do you ask, and when is the right time?
Ask your teacher by raising your hand quietly during the test.
Turn this into an "I-Statement": "You're talking too fast!"
I feel confused because the pace is fast. Can you please slow down or repeat that?"
What is one signal or non-verbal way you can ask your teacher for a break without interrupting the whole class?
Using a pass, a break card on the desk, or a pre-arranged hand signal.
You checked your grade on an assignment and think the teacher missed a page you finished. What is your first step?
Wait for a good time, approach politely, and ask: "Can we look at page 2 together?"
Your tummy is making loud noises and you feel overwhelmed during social studies lecture. When is a good time to ask for a self-regulation break?
During independent work or by raising your hand/using a pass quietly while the teacher pauses.
Turn this into an "I-Statement": "I can't do this hard work!"
"I need extra help with step 2 because I'm feeling stuck."
Name two self-regulation strategies you can use during a 3-minute break.
Deep breathing, counting to 10, stretching, squeezing a stress ball, taking a sip of water.
You were absent yesterday and feel lost during today's science lab. What statement do you use?
"I was absent yesterday, so I need a quick review of the instructions before I start."
A classmate keeps tapping your chair with their foot during independent reading time. Who do you advocate to first?
First to the peer using a calm request, then to the teacher if they don't stop.
Turn this into an "I-Statement": "I need to get out of this room right now."
I feel overwhelmed right now and I need a 3-minute self-regulation break.
Why is it helpful to tell an adult why you need a break rather than just walking out?
It builds trust, helps them understand you're staying safe, and allows them to support you better.
ou're working on a group project and one member is taking over all the tasks. How do you advocate for yourself?
"I want to contribute too. Can I take charge of part 2?"
You want to ask your parents to buy a specific snack for your school lunches. When is the best time to ask?
When your parents are calm (like before making the grocery list), not when they are busy or stressed out.
Create an "I-Statement" to advocate for a seating change in class because you can't see the board.
"I feel distracted/struggle to see from here, so I need to sit closer to the front."
What is the difference between taking a "coping break" and "avoiding work"?
A coping break is brief so you can return ready to learn; work avoidance means trying to skip the assignment entirely.
Your teacher gives you feedback on an assignment that you don't understand. What do you ask?
"I want to improve this. Could you explain what you meant by this comment?"
Name 3 different adults at school you can approach when you need help or feel overwhelmed.
Names 3 people
Create an "I-Statement" for asking a family member for quiet time while doing homework.
I feel distracted when the TV is loud, so I need a quiet space to finish my assignment."
What can you say to yourself (positive self-talk) if you feel nervous about asking an adult for help?
"It's okay to ask for help," "Speaking up helps me succeed," or "My feelings and needs matter."
You tried self-advocating to a peer or adult, but they ignored your request. What is your next move?
Try repeating yourself calmly, or advocate to a trusted secondary adult (like a counselor) for guidance.