Types of Abuse
What is one example of emotional abuse?
Name calling, manipulation, blaming, insults, cursing, jealousy, control, threats, intimidation
Why is it important to ask yourself why you feel upset, prior to an argument?
- There may be something underlying the issue.
- Previous fights blending into a current disagreement.
- Gives time to think about our feelings.
- Outside difficulties influencing current partnership/ issue.
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Is conflict the same thing as fighting? yes or no?
No
What is one example of an appropriate boundary?
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What are some reasons why someone might stay in an unhealthy relationship?
Fear, love, finances, trying to change the other person, guilt, pressure, kids, etc.
What are two examples of physical abuse?
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Why is it important to use "I" statements instead of degrading language?
- To discuss the issue, and not the person.
- To avoid bringing the person to the same level of emotion that you are at. Remember, it's about the situation, not the person.
- To be able to directly express what you are feeling, with words.
What is one healthy way to engage in conflict?
listening, taking turns speaking, keeping a calm voice, stating your boundaries, taking some time to cool down before speaking, equal time, etc.
What is a boundary?
Keywords: limits, an invisible fence stating where one person begins and one person ends, what is okay and what is not.
Who can be in an unhealthy relationship?
Anyone
What is one example of tech abuse?
sexting, demanding passwords, looking through phone/email without permission.
Why is it important to be an active listener?
- To understand what the person is trying to express, and allowing yourself the opportunity to process what they are feeling.
- To understand their point of view, even if you disagree.
- Allowing them to speak fully, gives you an opportunity to do the same in return.
What is one way you can avoid making your partner/friend defensive when talking about a difficult issue?
Use "I" statements, talk about your own feelings, try to understand where the other person is coming from, avoid accusing the other person
Can sexual assault occur between two people who know each other?
Yes
Is it healthy to be separately involved in activities or organizations outside of your relationship? yes or no?
Yes
What is gaslighting? Give an example.
Making a partner feel crazy and causes you to doubt your feelings, experiences, and instincts. "You're crazy", "It's all in your head."
Why is it important to take "time-outs" if things get too heated.
- Gives ourselves time to reset and re-focus.
- To avoid saying things we may regret later.
- Gives time to be mindful and listen to ourselves/ body.
- Cues a mutual agreement/ respect. "I'm too heated, I need a break".
What is something you can do to cool down during a disagreement?
Take a time-out from the disagreement or limit your discussion time, leaving the room, walk away, etc.
Boundaries can change based on the relationship. True or false?
True.
What is something you can do to ensure that you are taking care of yourself and keeping your sanity in a relationship?
Keep balance in your life (ex: between a relationship, friends, family, school/classes, work, and other activities)
What is a type of abuse not previously mentioned?
Sexual, psychological, spiritual or financial.
Why is it important to come to a conclusion, or compromise, in an argument?
- Unresolved conflicts can take our peace.
- Understanding that not everyone is going to always agree, and that's okay.
- A mutual understanding is easier to leave in the past, rather than carrying an argument that's unresolved.
What is one example of unhealthy communication?
Making threats, giving ultimatums (ex: Do this, or else!), accusing without listening, not being willing to apologize or take the blame, getting physical with your partner/friend, etc.
What is consent?
Asking permission/an agreement between two people/an enthusiastic yes!
What is the honeymoon phase in dating violence?
When the abusive partner attempts to apologize or shift blame after an explosion.