Facts
Anything you do when dealing with stressful situations and relieve strong emotions.
Coping response
Talking about it, asking for help, drawing, exercising, listening to music, self-talk, coping skills cards, accepting, letting it go- these are examples of what?
Healthy coping skills
What are examples of unhealthy coping skills?
Hitting someone or something, denial, isolation, all or nothing thinking, blaming
What are the consequences of using healthy coping skills?
Feeling better about ourselves, resolving problems, growing in understanding ourselves better, experiencing better quality of life, and being less overwhelmed by emotions and thoughts
Tony felt embarrassed at school when his classmates made fun of him for messing up his words when it was his time to read. Tony accepted that he was feeling embarrassed, asked his teacher to help him after school, and listened to music to feeling better
What healthy coping skills did Tony use?
Name his emotion ( You have to name it to tame it), asked for help and listened to music
Everyone has many, even hundreds of these?
Ways to cope
Something that can help you feel better and move on is what?
A healthy coping skill
What do unhealthy coping skills do?
Make you feel worse and can create more challenges/problems
What happens when you use withdrawal to cope with your feelings?
You can start to feel alone and like no one understands
Michael felt embarrassed after he tripped and fell in the hallway. He and his friend got into a fight because his friend said it was his fault for walking fast.
What unhealthy coping skills was being used here?
Getting into a fight, creating conflict with his friend
What are examples of healthy coping skills?
Writing about how you feel, asking someone you trust for help, drawing, exercising, listening to music, reflecting; Talking about it, using self-talk, coping skills cards, etc.
When should you use healthy coping skills?
When you are feeling angry, sad, afraid, etc.
What should you start to do if you continue using unhealthy coping skills?
Pick 1 or 2 unhealthy habits to start to unlearn and replace them with practicing healthy coping skills
What are some other consequences for using unhealthy coping skills?
You can get in trouble, you can feel like everything is crashing down on you, which is overwhelming, you can hurt people and lose friendships, etc.
Brittney said that if she was not the best player on her basketball team she must be the worst. What unhealthy coping skill was Brittney using?
All or nothing thinking
How does someone get a healthy coping skill?
They learn them
What are two coping skills tools I can make so I am prepared when I have a bad day?
Coping skills cards and coping skills toolbox
Why are negative coping skills unhealthy?
Because they bring only very short term relief and ultimately make us feel worse, keep us stuck, and/or create more problems
What are other healthy consequences for using healthy coping skills?
You get support and come up with solutions, you can learn to put your emotions into positive things that can improve your mood and help you to feel good about yourself, you can feel at peace and move on, you can improve your friendships; You can feel understood and you can understand others better, you hold onto grudges less
Aliyah was feeling nervous because she heard rumors that her good friend did not like her anymore. She decided to write about her feelings in her journal.
What type of coping skill is this?
Journal writing is a healthy coping skill
Are there unhealthy coping skills and if so, can you unlearn them?
Yes, and you can unlearn by practicing using healthy coping skills to use instead
What are clues to know when it's time to use my healthy coping skills?
When you start to feel like you are losing control of your behavior or your emotions; when you feel strong emotions or begin having negative thoughts
Why do people use unhealthy coping skills?
They haven't learned or developed healthy ones
What are the consequences of
A) accepting your feelings?
B) challenging your unhealthy thoughts?
A) Feelings decrease in intensity and often pass
B) Recognize better the unhealthy thoughts that are impacting your mood or behavior; and learn to replace unhealthy thought patterns with healthier thoughts
Brandon was feeling angry at school today and claimed that everyone was giving him dirty looks. What type of coping skill was Brandon using?
Unhealthy coping skill of jumping to conclusions and projection