Facts
Anything you do when you have big emotions and you are trying to manage them
Coping skills
Talking about it, asking for help, drawing, exercising, listening to music, accepting, forgiving, letting it go- these are examples of what?
Healthy coping skills
What are examples of unhealthy coping skills?
Hitting someone or something, denial, isolation, all or nothing thinking, blaming, using drugs or alcohol
What are the consequences of using healthy coping skills?
You get support and come up with solutions, you can learn to put your emotions into positive things that can improve your mood and help you to feel good about yourself, you can feel at peace and move on, you can improve your friendships
We feel better and can better manage our emotions.
Tony felt embarrassed at school when his classmates made fun of him for messing up his words when it was his time to read. Tony accepted that he was feeling embarrassed, asked his teacher to help him after school, and listened to music to feeling better. Did Tony use healthy or unhealthy coping skills?
Healthy.
He used the following skills: Name his emotion ( You have to name it to tame it), asked for help and listened to music
True or False: There are only 5-10 coping skills that exist.
False. There are hundreds of things you can do to manage your emotions.
What can healthy coping skills do for you?
Help you manage challenging situations and big feelings; make you feel better.
What do unhealthy coping skills do?
Make you feel worse and can get you into trouble
What happens when you use withdrawal to cope with your feelings?
You can start to feel alone and like no one understands
Michael felt embarrassed after he tripped and fell in the hallway. He and his friend go into a fight because his friend said it was his fault for walking fast. Was Michael using health or unhealthy coping skills?
Unhealthy. It was not his friend's fault that he tripped and felt embarrassed.
What are examples of healthy coping skills?
Writing about how you feel, asking someone you trust for help, drawing, exercising, listening to music
When should you use healthy coping skills?
Anytime you are having big and/or uncomfortable feelings (i.e. stress, anger, sadness, etc.).
What should you start to do if you want to stop using unhealthy coping skills?
Pick 1 or 2 unhealthy habits to start to unlearn and replace them with practicing healthy coping skills
What are consequences for using unhealthy coping skills?
You can get in trouble, you can feel like everything is crashing down on you, which is overwhelming, you can hurt people and lose friendships, etc.
Brittney said that if was not the best player on her basketball team she must be the worst. Is this a healthy or unhealthy way of thinking?
How does someone get a healthy coping skill?
They learn them
What are two coping skills tools I can make so I am prepared when I have a bad day?
Coping skills list and bag of coping tools (i.e. fidgets, gum, etc.)
Why are unhealthy coping skills not good for you?
Because they only bring short term relief and using make us feel worse
What are the consequences of using an unhealthy coping skill, like fighting, at school?
You get in trouble, people might think negatively about you, you could lose friendships, etc.
Aliyah was feeling nervous because she heard rumors that her good friend did not like her anymore. How could Aliyah deal with her feelings?
Talk to her friend
Ignore the rumors
Talk to an adult
Are there unhealthy coping skills and if so, can you unlearn them?
Yes, and you can unlearn by practicing using healthy coping skills
What are clues to know when it's time to use my healthy coping skills?
When you start to feel like you are losing control of your behavior or your emotions
Why do people use unhealthy coping skills?
They haven't learned or developed healthy ones
Unhealthy coping skills are often easier in the short term
What are the consequences when you use unhealthy coping skills, like drugs or alcohol?
You can get in trouble with the law and it can be very bad for your health.
Brandon was feeling angry at school today and felt that everyone was giving him dirty looks. When a kid he doesn't like looked at him he got in his face and yelled, "What are you looking at!?". Was Brandon using healthy coping skills to deal with his anger?
No, he was taking it out on other people.