Facts
Anything you do when you have big emotions and you are trying to make them go away
Coping skills
Talking about it, asking for help, drawing, exercising, listening to music, accepting, forgiving, letting it go- these are examples of what?
Healthy coping skills
What are examples of unhealthy coping skills?
Hitting someone or something, denial, isolation, all or nothing thinking, blaming, work refusal
What are the consequences of using healthy coping skills?
We feel better about ourselves
Tony felt embarrassed at school when his classmates made fun of him for messing up his words when it was his time to read. Tony accepted that he was feeling embarrassed, asked his teacher to help him , and listened to music after school to feeling better
What healthy coping skills did Tony use?
Name his emotion ( You have to name it to tame it), asked for help and listened to music
Everyone has hundreds, even thousands of these?
Coping skills
Can help you feel better and move on is the definition of what?
Healthy coping skills
What do unhealthy coping skills do?
Make you feel worse and can get you into trouble
What happens when you use withdrawal to cope with your feelings?
You can start to feel alone and like no one understands
Michael felt embarrassed after he tripped and fell in the hallway. He and his friend got into a fight because his friend said it was his fault for walking fast.
What unhealthy coping skills was being used here?
What are examples of healthy coping skills?
Writing about how you feel, asking someone you trust for help, drawing, exercising, listening to music
When should you use healthy coping skills?
When you are feeling angry, sad, afraid, etc.
What should you start to do if you continue using unhealthy coping skills?
What are some other consequences for using unhealthy coping skills?
You can get in trouble, you can feel like everything is crashing down on you, which is overwhelming, you can hurt people and lose friendships, etc.
Brittney is tired and confused about the assignment her teacher is asking her to complete. She decides to draw in her notebook. Her asks her to please stop drawing and work on the assignment with the rest of the class. Brittney says "I don't want to" and puts her head down for the rest of class.
What unhealthy coping skills did Brittney use?
work avoidance, drawing, non-compliance (refusing)
How does someone get a healthy coping skill?
They learn them
What are two coping skills tools I can use so I am prepared when I have a bad day?
DISCUSS
Why are negative coping skills unhealthy?
Because they only bring short term relief and using make us feel worse
What are the healthy consequences for using healthy coping skills?
You get support and come up with solutions, you can learn to put your emotions into positive things that can improve your mood and help you to feel good about yourself, you can feel at peace and move on, you can improve your friendships
Aliyah was feeling nervous because she heard rumors that her good friend did not like her anymore. She decided to write about her feelings in her journal.
What type of coping skill is this?
Journal writing is a healthy coping skill
Are there unhealthy coping skills and if so, can you unlearn them?
Yes, and you can unlearn by practicing using healthy coping skills
What are clues to know when it's time to use my healthy coping skills?
When you start to feel like you are losing control of your behavior or your emotions
Whey do people use unhealthy coping skills?
They haven't learned or developed healthy ones
What are some more consequences for using healthy coping skills?
You can feel understood and you can understand others better, you don't hold onto grudges
Brandon was feeling angry at school today and felt like everyone was giving him dirty looks. His friend sat down next to him and bumped his elbow. Brandon yelled "WHAT'S YOUR PROBLEM" and pushed his friends book off the desk.
What was the unhealthy coping skill that Brandon used?
Projection, yelling, physical aggression