Session 20 A
_______ are those people, places, events, rules, regulations, expectations, or requests that put some kind of demand on people.
Stressors
______ is the internal reaction to those demands.
Stress
Everyone has the same _____ _____, such as the need for food, for shelter, and for companionship.
basic needs
When people’s biological needs are satisfied, they can then pay attention to their environment. They can then focus on living conditions, such as having a ____ place to live, sleep, and eat.
safe
Fulfilling ______ needs generally involves being part of some type of group or groups that have a common purpose.
social
An individual’s ______and ____ about an event and those involved determine whether a stressor will create stress.
attitudes and beliefs
The fact that you are in treatment right now is a sign of _______.
strength
Many experts have tried to determine what are the most basic needs that each person shares. They developed the idea of"____ ___ ____,” including the needs for survival, safety, belonging, and esteem, which enable people to fulfill their potential.
Levels of Needs
Only after people’s basic biological needs are met, and they have some control over their environment, are they able to turn their attention to meeting _____ needs.
social
Indeed, in ____-____ groups, there is a shared interest in becoming and staying drug free, but the core theme is genuine concern, genuine friendship, and genuine love based on giving as well as taking.
self-help
____ _____ is associated with the words should, ought, must, always, and never.
Irrational thinking
What a person _____ has a tremendous impact upon what he or she feels.
believes
The most basic human needs are our _______ needs, such as the need for food and water.
biological needs
_______: To what degree am I willing to let down my barriers? To what degree am I willing to allow the other person to affect my feelings?
Vulnerability
________: Do I understand the other person? Do I understand what other people mean by what they say or by what they do?
Understanding
As is true of the general population, many people in early recovery cling to some ____-____ that causes a lot of hurt and damage in their lives.
self-criticism
Your _____ _____ may tell you that you are inferior, self-centered, unattractive, unworthy of love, or hopeless.
internal critic
_______: To what degree am I able to allow myself to feel what other people feel?
Empathy
________: Do I care about the issues that cause the other person concern?
Compassion
_______: Do I treat the other person as though he or she is of value?
Respect
To a large degree, it is not events that cause stress or other feelings, but rather people’s beliefs about those events. It may help to look at stressful events as a three step process: 1.? 2.? 3.?
1. The stressor event
2. Beliefs
3. Emotional consequences
______ ______: • Is there any evidence that the self-criticism is true? • Is there any evidence that the self-criticism is an exaggeration?
What is this called?
challenge test
______: To what degree and on what levels am I willing to let the other person know things about me that I don’t want everybody to know?
Trust
________: Am I okay the way I am? Is my friend?
Acceptance
_______: Is my relationship built on truth, or are there games involved?
Honesty