Dysfunctional Roles
True or False?
In a dysfunctional family, there is often one child who becomes the family “social worker.” As the placater, this child tries to take care of everyone else’s emotional needs and reduce conflicts in the family by smoothing things over
True
I have cities, but no houses. I have mountains, but no trees. I have water, but no fish. What am I?
A Map
All families have problems. But some families have serious problems that cause tremendous stress on all family members. The relationships among family members and the roles that family members take on are unhealthy. What is this type of family called?
Dysfunctional Family
True or False
Forgiveness is not a favor that you do for someone else. It's an act of self-liberation. If hanging onto resentments has its root in self-pity and/or blame, we have to let go, in order to embrace recovery.
True
Which classic novel by Mary Shelley follows the story of a scientist who creates a creature from reanimated body parts?
Frankenstein
What is one strength or positive quality of The Mascot?
They have a sense of humor, they're flexible and spontaneous, they are able to relieve stress and tension through laughter, they can bring others joy and happiness at least for a short period of time
Give me food, and I will live. Give me water, and I will die. What Am I?
Fire
All families have problems and experience traumatic events, such as divorce, financial issues, loss of a loved one, etc.
How does Dysfunctional Families address these problems and events?
They don't talk about the problems or talk about their emotions, so the problems are never resolved just suppressed contributing to continued denial.
Forgiveness helps to overcome anger. Sometimes anger can be directly outwardly towards other, but other times that anger is directed inward. If anger is directed inwardly what does that cause?
Depression, low self-esteem, and/or self hatred
What is the name of the guitarist famous for his work with Guns N' Roses?
Slash (Saul Hudson)
What is the Scapegoat role?
Scapegoating is when one person or group is unfairly blamed for problems or issues that are not entirely their fault. This could look like blaming one person for the family's struggles or failures, rather than taking responsibility as a group. Like the Black Sheep of the family, the rebel, and can be labeled the "bad one"
You measure my life in hours and I serve you by expiring. I’m quick when I’m thin and slow when I’m fat. The wind is my enemy. What am I?
A Candle
Name 3 qualities of healthy families.
Interdependence, Open communication, Shared Decisions, Emotionally supportive, Trust, Compassion, Understanding, Love, Supportive, Showing an interest in family's hobbies or interests, Healthy family traditions and daily rituals, Spending time together
One way to begin working on forgiveness is working on these 4 steps. What is Step 3?
Step 1: Write down who you need to forgive and for what
Step 2: Identify and list your feelings about the situation
Step 3:
Step 4: Write a Forgiveness Affirmation
Step 3: Identify and list the benefits you will get for forgiving the person and/or situation.
In the 1993 movie "Jurassic Park," what type of dinosaur was the first to be cloned and shown to the audience?
A Velociraptor
There are 7 Roles family members can have in dysfunctional families, 1. The Dependent, 2. The Mascot, 3. The Enabler, 4. The Lost Child, 5. The Placater, 6. _____, and 7. _____. What are the other 2 roles?
The Hero and The Scapegoat
What is seen in the middle of March and April that can’t be seen at the beginning or end of either month?
The letter "R"
There are several common behaviors that adults, who grew up in dysfunctional families, often share. Name 2 of them.
Frequently guessing what is normal behavior, having difficulty finishing a project, Lying, Judging themselves harshly, Having difficulty relaxing and having fun, taking themselves too seriously, trouble forming intimate/deep relationships, Overreacting to changes which they have no control, Constantly seeking approval and affirmation, feeling different from other people, being super-responsible or super-irresponsible, impulsive-Acting without feeling or thinking about consequences, addiction issues
There are two important qualities that you can improve to help prepare for forgiveness. One quality is understanding, what is the other quality?
HINT: this quality means to recognize the suffering of others and showing sympathy, care, and concern for them.
Compassion
Which insect holds the record for the fastest flying insect in the world?
Why do family members take on these unhealthy roles in Dysfunctional Families?
To gain some sense of stability, structure, and to be able to cope and survive in this difficult, unpredictable environment and situations.
A woman shoots her husband, then holds him underwater for five minutes. Next, she hangs him. Right after, they enjoy a lovely dinner. Explain.
She took a picture of him and developed it in her darkroom
There are 4 common unspoken rules in a Dysfunctional family. Name 2 of these rules.
Denial of the problem, Be silent- don't talk about the problems with family or outside of the family, act rigidly- little to no flexibility or emotional growth, and be isolated- don't talk about emotions
What is the difference between Forgiveness and Reconciliation?
Choosing to forgive someone can be made as a different and separate choice from choosing to reconcile with them. You can forgive someone and still decide to have nothing more to do with them
Forgiveness is unconditional as it is always possible to let go of our desire to punish someone whether they are living or dead, whether they have apologized or not, and whether they are still on our life or long gone.
Reconciliation sometimes needs to be conditional as we may be working on forgiving someone who is a persistent abuser, heavily addicted, a career criminal, or is in complete denial of their bad behavior. We can forgive them, but we can still create clear boundaries around the ways we relate to them.
Who wrote the screenplay for Rocky?
Sylvester Stallone