True or False
“I’m not comfortable with this” is something you can say when setting boundaries
True!
Face the other person, make eye contact, and use a steady tone of voice at an appropriate volume (not too quiet, and not too loud).
Use Confident Body Language
Avoids Intimacy and close relationships, unlikely to ask for help, very protective of personal information
Rigid
refer to personal space and physical touch
Physical
if you notice feelings of discomfort or resentment, don't bury them...
Listen to your emotions
"I can do that for you... let me move my schedule around.." is a form a setting a boundary
FALSE
Think about what you want to say, and how you will say it, before entering a difficult discussion. This can help you feel more confident about your position.
Plan Ahead
Overshares personal information, difficulty saying "no"
Porous
refer to thoughts and ideas
intellectual
When you know it's time to set a boundary, don't be shy. Say "no" respectfully.
Be Assertive
“This is not acceptable”--is setting a boundary
True
Avoid yelling, using put-downs, or giving the silent treatment. It’s okay to be firm, but your message will be better received if you are respectful.
Be respectful
Values own opinions, doesn't compromise values for others.
Healthy
refer to a person's feelings
Emotional
Be sure your actions are not self-serving
Have respect for others
“I’m drawing the line at ___” is setting a boundary..
True
When appropriate, listen and consider the needs of the other person. You never have to compromise, but give-and-take is part of any healthy relationship.
Compromise
are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships.
Personal
refer to how a person uses their time
Time
some days you will give more than you take, and other days you will take more than you give.
Consider the long view