Shame
Triggers
Connection
Shame Screens
Lonliness and ways to connect
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What is Shame?

Shame is an emotion that is experienced when a person thinks that their dignity and worthiness is lower than others.

100

What is a trigger? 

Something that causes a reaction or reactions. 

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What is connection? 

Connection is our ability to forge meaningful authentic relationships w/other people

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TRUE or FALSE
A shame screen is what people put up to show themseleves and not hide


FALSE

It is a smoke screen that is put up to hide behind when one experiences shame. A primal defense mechanism 

100

Can lonliness impact us the same way physical pain can? 

YES

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What makes shame universal? 

In almost all cultures there are expectations of some kind effecting what we do.

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Can shame be triggered by more than one event? 

YES

200

What does connection give us? 

Meaning

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What are the 3 responses when using Shame Screen? 

Move away

Move toward

Move against 

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What is the 1st step in getting out of the pattern of using shame screens? 

Acknowledge it. Be aware of them.

300

What is shame created by? 

By internalized negative beliefs about oneself such as Personal insecurities, Secrets, Mistakes, & Perceived flaws

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Can shame be triggered by imagined situations?  

Yes

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When shame is hidden, what disconnects us from others? 

Emotions like fear, anger, or jealousy, and the use of defense mechanisms

300

Seeking to please others to feel as though we still belong with them is which shame screen? 

Move toward

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TRUE or FALE


Disconnection strategies were likely the best form of protection you had at one point. 

TRUE

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What is the biggest thing shame impacts? 

Connection

400

TRUE or FALSE
Shame is triggered by current and past experiences/traumas whether they were self-experienced or not.

TRUE

400
What makes shame a social component? 

The feelings of fear for being judged, criticized, or rejected by others rather than just judging oneself.

400

Avoiding the feeling by using mechanisms to mask, numb, hide, and or escape is a way to move away, against, or toward? 

Move away because we are trying to avoid the painful emotions we are scared to experience. 

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Does disconnecting from your bad feelings also disconnects you from the good ones too? How? 

Yes, because you can't pick and choose what feeling to feel and not. 

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Why do people feel shame? 

A person who feels shame thinks that there’s something wrong with them and therefore feeling shameful is the opposite of feeling worthy and adequate.

500

What do self-critical beliefs have and are often what? 

They have an element of truth, but are often greaty distorted and exaggerated when compared to a more global assessment of a person’s character

500

When self-critical beliefs are distorted and exaggerated it causes people to what? 

To internalize negative beliefs about themselves and to see specific mistakes, flaws or character defects as threats that could keep them from being accepted or loved.

500

.By using hopeless, disempowered phrases like: “I always do this…” “I don’t know why I can’t be consistent.” “I’ll never change” or attaching a label to yourself is what response? 

Moving against

500

Can well-worn neural pathways be shifted, if so how? 

Yes, by praticing and coninually using reinforcements. 

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