Positive Self-Comments
What is something positive you can say about yourself?
“I am good at drawing.”
“I worked hard.”
“I am a good friend.”
What should you do when someone tells you “No”?
Stay calm and accept the answer.
What words can you use when you need help?
“Can you help me, please?”
What is one thing you should say when you hurt someone's feelings?
“I'm sorry, for hurting your feelings. That was my mistake. How can I make it better?"
What should you do with your hands when you are upset?
Keep your hands and body to yourself.
Give an example of three positive self-comments.
“I did a good job!”
“I kept trying.”
“I am proud of myself.”
"I get better every single day."
My feelings matter."
Someone says, “No, you can't have that right now.” What could you say?
“Okay.”
“Alright.”
“Maybe later.”
What should you do first when you don't understand an assignment?
Try to figure it out or look at the directions, then appropriately ask for help.
Why is it important to apologize?
🎲 Double Jeopardy 🎲
You accidentally grab something from another student. Show us how you would make an appropriate apology.
It shows that you recognize what happened and care about how your behavior affected someone else.
Example Answer:
“I'm sorry I grabbed that from you. I should have asked. Can I have it when you're finished?”
What is a safe choice when you are angry?
Take deep breaths, ask for a break, use a coping skill, move away, or ask for help.
Why can positive self-comments help you?
🎲 Double Jeopardy 🎲
You make three mistakes on your paper. Give yourself an appropriate positive self-comment.
They help us feel confident, recognize our strengths, and keep trying when something is difficult.Example Answer:
“I made some mistakes, but I kept trying. I can fix them.”
What does it mean to accept “No” appropriately?
🎲 Double Jeopardy 🎲
Your teacher says, “No, you cannot use the computer right now.” Show us how you would respond.
Don't argue, yell, threaten, complain repeatedly, or become aggressive. Stay calm and move on.
Example Answer:
“Okay. Can I use it later?” Then choose another activity without arguing.
Show how you would appropriately ask an adult for help.
🎲 Double Jeopardy 🎲
You don't understand your assignment. Show us how you would appropriately ask your teacher for help.
Walk up calmly, get the adult's attention, and say, “Excuse me, can you please help me with this?”
Example Answer:
“Excuse me, I don't understand this part. Could you please help me?”
Give the steps for making an appropriate apology.
Looking the person in the eye, in an apologetic tone say:
1. I am sorry for __________.
2. That was my mistake.
3. How can I make it better?
What should you do if you feel like you might hurt someone?
Stop, create space, keep hands/body to yourself, use a coping strategy, and get an adult's help.
Give a positive self-comment after making a mistake.
“Everyone makes mistakes. I can try again.”
“I learned something.”
You disagree with an adult's answer. What can you say instead of arguing?
“I disagree, but I'll accept your answer.”
“Can I explain why I disagree?”
What can you do if the first person you ask cannot help you?
Stay calm and appropriately ask another available adult or person who can help.
Someone says your apology wasn't accepted. What should you do?
Stay calm, respect their feelings, and give them space. Don't argue or demand that they forgive you.
Someone is making you angry. Give two safe choices you could make.
Walk away and take a break; ask an adult for help; use deep breathing; appropriately tell the person to stop.
You worked hard but didn't get the answer correct. Give yourself an appropriate positive self-comment
“I worked hard even though I got it wrong.”
“I can try again.”
“I didn't give up.”
You really want something, but an adult says “No.” Explain what you should do from beginning to end.
Stay calm → listen to the answer → say “Okay” or appropriately disagree → don't argue or become aggressive → move on or choose another activity.
You are frustrated because you cannot complete your work. Demonstrate how to appropriately ask for help.
“I'm having trouble with this. Could you please help me?”
You accidentally knock over someone's project. Demonstrate an appropriate apology.
“I'm sorry I knocked over your project. I didn't mean to, that was my mistake. Can I help you fix it?”
You are extremely upset and feel like you might lose control. Explain what you can do to stay safe.
Stop → keep hands/body safe → create space → use a coping skill → ask for help → wait until calm before returning to the problem.