Anger
What is anger?
Anger is a strong feeling that you get when something bad happens to you or when someone does something wrong that you really don't like
What are coping skills?
A coping skill is something you can do to make yourself feel better when you are experiencing a negative emotion like anger, stress, anxiety, or sadness
What are boundaries?
A boundary is a rule that you create for yourself about how others are allowed to treat you.
TRUE OR FALSE: "I feel" statements can help you communicate your concerns, feelings, and needs without blaming others or sounding threatening.
TRUE
What is self-talk?
Self-talk is things you say to yourself inside your head. Self-talk can either be positive or negative.
Name three of your anger triggers
- When someone calls you a mean name
- When someone makes fun of you
- When you get in trouble for something someone else did
- When someone takes your things without asking
What is a healthy coping skill? What is an unhealthy coping skill?
- A healthy coping skill is one that makes you feel better in the moment without hurting yourself or anyone else. It also doesn't get you in any trouble now or later
- A unhealthy coping skill is one that might feel good when you use it but it might end up hurting you or other people
Name three of your own boundaries
- How others touch you
- Personal space and privacy
- What others know about you
- How others talk to you
Why is it important to tell others how you feel?
It is important to tell others how you feel because you are giving them important information that they can then use to take action. Remember, people can't read minds and if you don't communicate with others, they may never know how you feel!
Give an example of negative self-talk
EX: "I am a horrible person"
Name three ways anger shows up in your body
- Skin gets hot
- Start to shake
- Start to sweat
- Start to cry
- Heart rate increases
Name three coping skills you can use when angry
- Count to ten
- Use deep breathing
- Use progressive muscle relaxation
- Go for walk
- Use an "I Feel" statement
- Take a shower
- Do something creative
What can you do if someone crosses one of your boundaries?
Communicate your boundary to them by calmly letting them know that what they did wasn't okay. If someone is repeatedly not respecting your boundary, it is important to tell an adult you trust!
How do you set up an "I Feel" Statement?
I feel ___________ when ___________ because ___________. Could you ___________ next time?
Give an example of positive self-talk
EX: "I made a mistake, but I can keep practicing"
Is anger a normal emotion? Why or why not?
It is NORMAL to feel angry, everyone feels angry from time to time! Feeling angry is NOT a bad thing...all feelings are OK
Demonstrate how to do deep breathing
What is something you can say to someone who crosses your boundary?
"I don't allow people to treat me like that"
"I don't think that is funny, please stop"
"You're standing too close to me, can you back up"
"I don't like being called that name"
Your sister called you a mean name, how can you respond with an "I feel" statement?
I feel hurt when you call me a mean name because it makes me think you don't like me. Next time, could you not call me that word?
Your sister does not want to play a game with you. What is something positive you can say to yourself to help you calm down?
EX: "People won't always act the way I want them to. I can't control what they do or say."
Why is it important to recognize your anger warning signs?
If you recognize your anger, you can take action and manage it in a healthy way. For example, you can utilize a positive coping skill or communicate your feelings to others instead of doing something that can hurt yourself or others
Demonstrate how to do progressive muscle relaxation
YOU GOT THIS!!!
Why are boundaries important in relationships?
Boundaries help to create a clear guideline of how you would like to be treated. They let others know what is and what is not okay/acceptable. They also help us to build trust, safety, and respect in relationships.
Your sister stole your food, how can you respond with an "I feel" statement?
I feel disrespected when you steal my food because I worked really hard to make it. Next time, could you ask before you take something of mine?
You get in trouble for something your sister did. What is something positive you can say to yourself to help you calm down?
EX: "I know that getting angry isn't going to solve this problem. How else can I solve this problem?"