Communication Styles
What are examples of unhelpful communication?
Yelling, screaming, hitting, hiding, ignoring, etc
True or False: Being stuck and flexible is in our control
TRUE!
Is positive self talk a CBT or DBT skill?
CBT!
Explain radical acceptance in your own words
Completely accepting things that are out of your control
Would you rather speak every language in the world or talk to animals?
Tubular!
What are three different communication styles? HINT: they are three different animals
Aggressive tiger, passive turtle, and assertive owl
What visual do we use to talk about stuck vs. flexible?
A fork in the road
What is self talk?
It's the way we talk to ourselves in our head
Do people feel comfortable around us when we have big reactions to small problems?
No.
What is your favorite kind of chip?
NOM NOM!
When we are communicating like a passive turtle, do others know what we need?
NO!
Give an example of being STUCK when your parent asks you to turn off electronics
Examples: keep playing electronics, throw your electronics, yell, slam the door
What are two types of ways that we can practice positive self talk?
Cheerleader statements and listing things I'm good at or like about myself
Give an example of a big problem and a small problem
Big: Natural disaster, getting injured, being bullied at school
Small: going to school, doing chores, doing homework, losing a game
If you had a time machine, where would you go?
Awesome!
Which of the two communication styles are unhelpful?
Aggressive tiger and passive turtle
Give an example of being FLEXIBLE when you really don't want to do your homework
Examples: Take a short break and keep trying, use TIP, take deep breaths, ask for help
Give an example of a cheerleader statement?
E.g., "You got this" or "you can do this" or "you're trying your best" (staff will determine correct answer)
What is something we might say to show we are using radical acceptance?
Examples: "I can accept this even if I don't like it"; "I can let this problem go"; "This is how it has to be right now"
If you were given a million dollars and had to spend it all in one week, what would you buy?
Fantastic!
Give an example of communicating like an assertive owl.
Example: asking for help, using a DEAR, calm voice, calm body, using a skill
Give an example of a time being flexible would be helpful for YOU!
Example: Going to school, doing homework, fighting with parents, etc.
How does replacing our ANTS with positive self talk statements affect our CBT triangle
It helps us feel more pleasant emotions and have expected actions
What should our actions/body look like if we are using radical acceptance?
Examples: Calm body, following directions, showing expected behaviors, using skills
Share three words that describe yourself
Cool!