DEAR
Name 2 unhelpful ways to communicate and 2 helpful ways to communicate.
Unhelpful: yelling, screaming, hitting, kicking, ignoring, refusing to participate, demanding things.
Helpful: using DEAR, asking for help, using kind words, accepting "no"
What is an example of a bedtime routine?
Therapists will determine a correct answer.
What is evidence?
Clues, proof, facts, 100% true
Explain radical acceptance in your own words.
Completely accepting things that are out of your control.
Would you rather speak every language in the world or talk to animals?
COOL!!!
When we are asking for what we need, should it be realistic?
YES!
What's an example of an exercise you can do for 20 minutes?
Therapists will determine correct answers.
What is an example of a fact vs. Opinion?
Fact: today is Friday
Opinion: Friday is the best day of the week
Do people feel comfortable around us when we have big reactions to small problems?
No
Would you rather have dessert for breakfast every day or breakfast for dessert?
YUMMY, I'm hungry now!
What should our reaction be if the listener says "no"?
Still have a calm body and accept the "no", we can use radical acceptance, 4x4 breathing, lemons to lemonade and positive self talk.
What are the two categories of self care?
Hygiene and hobbies.
What are the two types of evidence we look for in clue snooping?
Helpful and unhelpful.
Give an example of a big problem and a small problem.
Big: natural disaster, getting injured, being bullied at school.
Small: going to school, doing chores, doing homework, losing a game.
Share three words that describe yourself.
Don't forget, you're also cool, AMAZING, and fun!!!
What does DEAR stand for?
D: describe the situation
E: express your emotions
A: ask for what you need or want
R: reward the listener
How many meals should you eat a day?
3, plus snacks!
Is this helpful or unhelpful evidence: My teacher told me I was helpful in class
Helpful
What is something we might say to show we are using radical acceptance?
“I can accept this even if I don’t like it”, “I can let this problem go”, “this is how it has to be right now”.
Would you rather have a puppy or a kitten?
I'd take one of each! =-)
Use a DEAR to ask a therapist for a break.
"The situation is I am at Compass, I am feeling nervous, can I please take a break? Thanks for listening"
Name each letter of SEEDS.
Sleep
Eat
Exercise
Doctors orders
Self care: hygiene and hobbies
Imagine you are having the ANT "I never get what I want". You found these pieces of unhelpful evidence:
- I didn't get a prize from the prize box
- My sibling got to stay up later than me
You ALSO found these pieces of helpful evidence:
- My mom said I could have a friend over
- I got a new toy for my birthday
What should our actions/body look like if we are using radical acceptance?
Calm body, following directions, showing expected behaviors, using skills.
If you could have any magical power, what would it be?
WOW, that's really cool!