Standing Up For Yourself
What does it mean to stand up for yourself?
• To speak up
• To let others know that they aren’t being nice
• Etc.
Step #1 is to look for signs of a problem.
How might we feel if we think there’s a problem?
Mad, anxious, sad, etc.
What does it mean to feel embarrassed?
• To feel shy or nervous about something
• To hide our feelings when we’re in front of others
• Etc.
What does criticism mean?
When someone disapproves of something or someone.
Why is it important to stand up for yourself?
So that you can let others know how you feel.
Step #1 is to look for signs of a problem.
How might the other person treat you if there’s a problem?
• Bullying behaviors (e.g., using unkind words, name-calling, making fun of you in front of others, etc).
• Physical and/or verbal aggression (e.g., hitting, pushing, yelling, etc.)
• Etc.
Name at least one thing we can do to feel less embarrassed about a situation.
• Ignore it
• Decide what to do next time
• Self-talk
Name the two types of criticisms.
Constructive & destructive.
Which zones are we usually in if we feel like we need to stand up for ourselves?
Red, yellow, & blue zones.
Step #3 is to ask others about their thoughts on the situation.
Why is this important?
So that we can understand different perspectives of the situation in order to figure out if there’s a problem.
Provide an example of positive self-talk.
e.g., “It’s okay, no one will remember.”
1) What is constructive criticism?
2) Name at least one way to handle constructive criticism.
1) Helpful advice that allows us to make positive changes.
2) Use a coping tool, listen to the person providing the constructive criticism, and/or thank the other person for their perspective.
Name at least one expected way to stand up for yourself.
• Using kind words calmly (e.g., “please stop” or “I don’t like that)”
• Asking peers or adults for help
• Etc.
1) What is destructive criticism?
2) Name at least one way to handle destructive criticism.
1) Unhelpful advice that makes us feel bad about ourselves.
2) Use a coping tool and/or stand up for yourself using “I” statements (e.g., I didn’t appreciate what you said”).
Name at least one unexpected way to stand up for yourself.
• Physical aggression - Pushing, slapping, kicking, etc.
• Verbal aggression - Yelling, using unkind words, name-calling, etc.
• Etc.
Label the following criticisms:
1) “Throwing trash on the ground isn’t good for our planet.”
2) “You aren’t a smart person.”
3) “Eating too much chips isn’t good for you.”
1) Constructive.
2) Destructive.
3) Constructive.