Being Social
What are social skills?
Social skills are the ways people talk, play, and work with each other.
Social skills are the ways we use tone of voice, body language, facial expressions, words and movements to relate to other people.
What is nonverbal communication?
Nonverbal communication is the way we communicate without words. It includes the movements we make with out face and body when we are interacting with others that let them know how we are feeling or what we are thinking.
What is perspective-taking?
Perspective is your point of view, opinion - what you think or feel Perspective-taking is thinking about other people’s feelings
Name two positive emotions and when you may feel this way
Name two times when you would need to work in a group
School, playtime, class projects, camp
Why is it important to learn social skills?
Social skills help you learn about getting along well with others. Social skills are really important for everybody so we can live and work together.
Name two types of nonverbal communication
Nonverbal communication includes:
Eye Movement: Where we look tells others what we are thinking about.
Facial Expression: We can tell how someone is feeling by looking at their face.
Body Language: Looking at someone’s body language also helps tell us how they are feeling.
Tone of Voice: Tone of voice means how your voice sounds when you are talking.
How do we tune in to others?
1. Look and listen: Pay attention to non-verbal language cues
2. Put it all together: Think about what someone else might be thinking or feeling
3. Ask and Adjust: Do I need to tune in and adjust my words and actions?
Name two negative emotions and when you may feel this way
Name a strategy to use if you feel annoyed/frustrated while working in a group
Take 3 (or more) deep breaths
Take a break
Countdown from 10
Draw
Squeeze your hands together
Think of a happy thought
Go for a walk
Positive Self-Talk
What are social smarts?
The type of "smarts" in our brains that we use whenever we are around other people
Role play - one person loses a game and the other has to determine how theyre feeling based on their nonverbal communication- identify which kinds and why
How can we change our actions based off people’s nonverbal language cues?
We must decide if we should change our words and actions based on the non-verbal language cues we observe and how someone may be thinking or feeling.
For example:
If you see a friend looking away in conversation, you can change the topic…
If a friend looks upset, you can change your tone of voice to be calm and ask, “are you okay?”
If you are telling a friend a joke and at first they laugh, but then you keep going and they start to look annoyed, it is probably time to stop
Name two ways you can calm down if you feel a strong/uncomfortable feeling
Take a break
Countdown from 10
Draw
Squeeze your hands together
Think of a happy thought
Go for a walk
Positive Self-Talk
What are two ways to be able to appropriately work with others in a group if you don’t all agree?
Being Flexible & Compromising
Flexible- being okay if we do not get our exact way. Being able to change and not be rigid.
Compromise- to make a deal in which each person gets a little bit of what they want (i.e. a “win-win” situation”)
Name one expected and one unexpected social behavior
Expected: Using kind words, following directions, respecting personal space, waiting in line.
Unexpected: grabbing someone's pencil without asking, yelling at someone for skipping your turn, cutting in line
Why is it important to understand nonverbal communication?
Nonverbal communication is an important part of how we communicate because it impacts how we express ourselves, understand others, and form relationships with people. We can use nonverbal language to determine how someone is feeling or what someone is thinking about. We also use nonverbal language to help support what we are talking about.
Why is it important to tune into others’ nonverbal language?
If we take the time to tune in to non-verbal language cues, we will know what to say and how to act around our friends.
If we don’t tune in to non-verbal language cues we might continue behaviors that make others annoyed or uncomfortable.
Being able to TUNE IN and RESPOND to non-verbal language cues makes us better friends and makes our friendships stronger!
Why is it important to identify our feelings and use strategies to calm down?
Helps us stay in control of our thoughts, emotions, and actions.
We can make better decisions and keep friendships
It helps us have a clear mind to use our social smarts and tune in
Why is it important to listen to each others' ideas in a group?
If we listen to other people, we show that we are polite, a good friend, and can learn from other people
If we don’t listen to other people’s ideas, they may feel upset and may not want to consider our ideas which can cause arguments
Other people have good ideas too!