Being Social
What does the word social mean?
How we get along with others (i.e playing with others, talking to others, behaving around others)
What is an impression?
An impression is a thought that someone has about us when we first meet them.
Define teasing, bullying, and gossip.
Teasing It means to make fun of someone by playfully saying unkind and hurtful things to the person; it can be friendly, but can turn unkind quickly.
Bullying: Happens over and over and can include name calling, taunting, insulting, gossiping, leaving people out, kicking, hitting, making someone look silly on purpose,
Gossip is defined as the private information about others shared in conversation or print. Gossip is a negative conversation, usually with bad intentions, that is spread by others.
What does empathy mean?
Empathy: putting yourself in another person’s shoes and imagining how it would feel to be that person (how you can show that you care)
What is a social filter?
Social Filter helps us say words and use actions that make people have good thoughts about us. We all have kind and unkind thoughts. It’s okay to have unkind thoughts, but we should keep them in our head to protect other people’s feelings. Remember: We do not always say out loud what we are thinking.
Name a time when you are expected to be social and a time when you are not expected to be social?
Expected to be social- lunch cafeteria/birthday party
Expected to not be social- reading a book
Why are positive first impressions important?
Positive first impressions allow other people to think good thoughts about us, which will make them want to be around us more and be our friend!
Give an example of teasing, bullying and gossip
Student's choice
Name the steps to reading someone's mood.
1. Body language
2. Facial expression
3. Tone of voice
4. What is around them in the environment (the place, objects, time, and space)
5. Finally, they put all these clues together to figure out what the person is feeling and why they might feel that way.
Thoughts we should keep in our head:
Insults
Negative comments
Opinions in a disrespectful way
Comments about weight of physical appearance
Prying or really personal questions
Comments about politics, religion, or race (depending on when and who you are talking to)
Curse words or mean words
These are things we can say out loud:
Helpful thoughts
Positive comments
Opinions in a respectful way instead of “that’s stupid” you could say “I don’t really agree because…”
Compliments about physical appearance if they won’t make others uncomfortable like, “that’s a nice haircut”
General questions
Comments
Why is it important to be social and follow social rules?
To make friends, get to know others, people will think we are being nice (if were not social other kids may think we are being mean or rude) and if we don’t follow these rules it can make others upset or scared.
In order to make a good first impression what do you need to consider?
nonverbal language cues
words we use
Give three strategies that someone can use to handle teasing and bullying
Teasing:
If someone teases you in a friendly way, laugh along to show that you are able to laugh at yourself.
If someone teases you in a friendly way, you may tease the person back in a friendly way.
If the teasing turns mean and really hurts your feelings you can tell the person how you feel- SELF-ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF!, “You’re putting me down. I don’t like that. I want you to stop.”
Bullying:
Don’t give the bully a chance. As much as you can, avoid the bully.
Feel good about you. You can use positive self-talk (e.g. “ What they are saying to me is not going to hurt me. I am okay. Their words are not bringing me down”).
Get a friend (and be a friend) Two is better than one if you’re trying to avoid being bullied. If you are not the one being bullied, help the target get out of the situation by walking away with you.
Ignore the bully. If you can, ignore the bully’s threat and walk away to a place of safety.
Don’t bully back.
Why is it important to read people's moods?
So we know what to say and how to act around others. If we take the time to read people’s mood we will know what to say and how to act around them. If we don’t read people’s mood we might continue behaviors that make others annoyed or uncomfortable.
Change this statement into something neutral--> These cookies are horrible.
These cookies are different. How did you make them?
Come up with two unexpected behaviors in social situations?
-standing too close to someone
- interrupting someone when they are talking
- someone greets you hi and you don't say hi back
- someone is talking to you and you are looking at the other way
- someone asks you a question and you don't respond
Name examples of positive non-verbal language cues
Eye contact- you are looking at the person or your head is up
Body language-body facing the person, appropriate personal space, arms not crossed, staying with the group
Facial expression-smile on our face
Positive Tone of Voice- tone of voice is how we communicate our message; using different tones can make the same words and phrases sound very different (e.g. What are you doing here?)
Give three strategies someone can use to deal with gossip
Talk to the source who started the rumor: Example: Say something polite yet direct, like: "Hey. I want you to know that I don't appreciate the things you've been saying about me. Sometimes, the person who started the rumor didn't do it on purpose. It may, for instance, be a friend who simply let a secret slip by accident.
Ignore it
Tell an adult
Provide an example of when you would have to read someone's mood
Student's choice
Provide an example of when you would use your social filter
Student's choice