Active Listening
What is active listening?
Active listening is a type of listening that shows our friends and family that we care about what they are saying and are interested in what they are saying
How do we initiate a conversation?
1. Get their attention
2. Use a clue or small talk to start the conversation
3. Determine if the other person is interested
What is a friend?
Shares interests with you
Cares about your feelings
Makes you feel good
Is someone you can trust
Is someone you want to be around and hangout with
What is perspective taking?
Perspective taking is when you think about the people around you
We try to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes
Try to imagine what they are feeling by reading their mood.
What are the steps to joining a group?
1. Look for a group who appear friendly and are doing something you might enjoy
2. Stand near the group to show you are interested. Put on your friendly face (smile) and make eye contact
3. Listen for a pause before you speak. Don’t interrupt.
4. Ask politely to join in
5. Ask questions or make comments about what they are doing/talking about. You can also make small talk.
Why is active listening important?
Shows we care and are interested
Helps others feel listened to
Helps us really focus and hear what the other person is saying
How can we drive a conversation?
1. Make connected comments
2. Ask on-topic questions (wh questions)
What are questions you can ask someone to build a friendship?
Do you have any siblings?
Where do you live?
What do you do for fun?
What do you like to eat?
Do you have any pets? If no, what pet would you want?
Do you play any sports?
How can we read someone's mood?
1. Facial expressions and Body language
2. Tone of voice
3. Situation
What are the four steps to work in a group?
1. Accepting the group
2. Organizing the tasks
3. Sharing ideas
4. Encourage others
What are the 6 parts of active listening?
1. Eye Contact
2. Focus
3. Nonverbal Cues
4. Think About Emotions
5. Picture What is Being Said
6. Show we are listening with the things we say
What is small talk?
A quick, polite conversation
Use two W’s: Weather and Weekend
What is a "dneirf"?
Pretends to be your friend when they want something
Makes you do things you are not comfortable with
Dneirfs make fun of you when others are around
How do we take someone's perspective during a conversation?
If you are having a conversation with a friend, you need to be able to think about what they like to talk about and what they enjoy.
When we listen and focus on what the other person is interested in, this will more likely lead to a more positive interaction.
If you are feeling nervous, shy or too excited when trying to join a group what can you do?
Take a deep breath
Use positive self-talk
What are nonverbal language cues we can use while demonstrating active listening?
We make eye contact with the speaker.
We can nod our head when they are speaking to show we are listening.
We can maintain a neutral facial expression or smile at the speaker from time to time
What does a conversation measuring cup tell us?
If we do not use our conversation measuring cup we may not give enough information. Someone may think we don’t want to talk to them
OR
We may give too much information. Someone might feel annoyed or frustrated and want a turn to talk
What are the steps to making friends?
1. Learn about others by asking general questions.
2. Share about yourself.
3. Spend time with them!
4. Keep the friendship equal.
What does tuning in mean?
We can show others that we understand their perspective by “tuning in” to how they are feeling!
We must decide if we should change our words and actions based on the non-verbal language cues we see and how someone may be thinking or feeling
What does it mean to compromise in a group?
To make a deal in which each person gets a little bit of what they want (i.e. a “win-win” situation”)