Building Self Esteem
What is positive self esteem?
Feeling good about yourself.
What is a good friend?
Someone who cares about your feelings, is honest, nice, pays attention and listens to you
What does it mean to compromise?
Sometimes our ideas are different from others. We need to share our ideas and compromise to come to a decision we all can agree on.
Compromising can help us solve problems.
It helps people agree when they have different ideas.
How do our bodies feel when we have a strong feeling? Like feeling angry or upset?
Body tenses up, heart beats fast
Friendly Teasing: Usually makes everyone laugh and no-one feels bad, including jokes and statements that make friends or family members feel a bond. It is often based on things we know about each other and causes laughter or smiles. It might cause the other person to friendly-tease back.
Mean Teasing: Joking that makes people mad, or sad, where hurtful words or actions are involved. It can include: physical bumps and pushes, and minor insults.
What is negative self esteem?
Feeling bad about yourself. Having negative thoughts.
How can we make friends?
Learn about others interests and tell them about ourselves.
What does it mean to be flexible in a group?
Thinking about more than one solution
Thinking about others
Being okay if your plans change
Keeping an open mind
Trying new things
How do others feel when we have a big reaction and can't calm down?
What is bullying?
Bullying: It happens over and over again and can include name calling, taunting, insulting, gossiping, leaving people out, kicking, hitting, and making someone look silly on purpose.
Think of the things you are good at.
What is a friendship file?
Stored information about your friend (e.g., remembering that they have a dog and a sister and like to play soccer).
Describe your ideal group member.
Easy going, participates, helps
What is a trigger?
We can keep track of the things that make us feel upset. These are called triggers, These are warning signs that alert you to pick a calming strategy.
How can you handle friendly/mean teasing?
If someone teases you in a friendly way, laugh along to show that you are able to laugh at yourself or you may tease the person back in a friendly way.
If the teasing turns mean and really hurts your feelings you can tell the person how you feel, “You’re putting me down. I don’t like that. I want you to stop.”
What is positive self talk?
Thinking positive thoughts. (I can do it!)
How do you join a group?
Step 1: Walk over to the group using eye-contact and a smile.
Step 2: Listen to what they are talking about. Determine the topic.
Step 3: Decide if this is a topic you would want to talk about.
if we do not know the topic, but wish to join in with a friendly group of kids, we can ask “What are you talking about?”
Step 4, If it is a topic you wish to talk about, you can think about something to add to the conversation. You can make a comment or ask a question related to the topic.
Step 5: Wait for a pause in conversation (do not interrupt) and state your comment or question. Think about the Conversation Stoplight to help determine when it is okay to speak.
Give an example of a time you worked in a group?
Class project, playing a game
What is a Self Controller Scanner?
This tool helps you learn to scan your brain and body to notice your feelings when you become upset.
How can you handle bullying?
Walk away
Express how it makes you feel
Positive self-talk (e.g. “I don’t need to listen to what they are saying. Their words are not going to hurt me”).
Don’t bully back
Most importantly, tell an adult or teacher. If they do not do anything or nothing changes, try telling another adult.
Why is it important to have positive self esteem?
So you can feel happy
Why is it important to make friends?
So you aren't lonely and have people to share things with. Friends can help you and make you feel better.
Why is it important to work in a group?
We have to work in a group all the time at school, at home with our families, and when we go outside (i.e., working in a group project, playing a sport, etc).
What strategies can you use to calm down?
Use kind self talk to talk yourself through a problem (use language like “This is hard now, but I CAN get through it).
Take 3 deep breaths
Take a break
Count to 5
Squeeze your hands together
Think of a happy thought
Draw
Listen to music
What is self advocacy?
Standing up for yourself
Letting others know what you need
Letting others know what you want