Name 3 healthy coping skills.
- Read a Book
- Writing/Drawing/Painting
- Listening to Music
- Spending Time with Friends/Family
- Go for a Walk
- Deep Breathing
- Meditation
Name one example of an unhealthy coping skill.
- Avoiding Help
- Fighting
- Yelling at others
- Harming others or yourself
True or False:
Talking to others about problems in our lives is a healthy coping skill.
TRUE!
Talking to others allows us to share our emotions and problems so that we do not have to go through them alone.
What is a conflict?
A conflict is to disagree strongly, to have an issue or a problem.
name one anger management technique
going for a walk
punching pillows
talk about your feelings
Which of the coping skills below are unhealthy.
- Getting Fresh Air
- Talking to a Trusted Friend/Adult
- Destroying Property
- Hair pulling and eating it
- Exercising
- Playing Sports
- Taking Feelings Out on Others
- Yelling at someone you don't like
Name two unhealthy coping skills.
- Sleeping too Much
- Eating too Much
- Avoiding the Problem
True or False:
Every coping skill is healthy.
FALSE!
Some ways that we learn to cope are not healthy for us! (ex: fighting, eating too much, running from problems, etc.)
What does the conflict avoider do? (Turtle)
Hide from conflict
Be slow to respond to conflict
Avoid conflict
Be afraid to share their feelings
True or False
Is anger a bad thing?
Anger is not bad, how we express anger can be a poor choice
Anger is an emotion that communicates when something has happened that we don't like
Healthy coping skills help us:
a.) Deal with stressors in our lives
b.) Work through our emotions and problems
c.) Process our thoughts and emotions
d.) All of the above
d.) All of the above
Using healthy coping skills allow us to take a minute and process what is happening with our emotions, stressors, thoughts, and problems.
How can unhealthy coping skills negatively affect our lives?
Unhealthy Coping Skill: Hurt Ourselves, Hurt Others, Creates Problems, Lost Friendships
True or False:
Coping skills are used to avoid problems in our lives.
FALSE!
Coping skills help us work through our problems and emotions. You do not want to avoid these! Avoiding is considered an unhealthy coping skill.
TRUE or FALSE
Our emotions are like a thermometer.
TRUE!
We can have a very strong feeling of mad or a very mild feeling of mad.
Trigger
Can you name two triggers for anger
being left out
being told no
being embarrassed
losing a game
waiting
hard school work
Is meditation a coping skill?
Meditation is when you center yourself in the present moment. It can be done through meditation, relaxation exercises, or just simply slowing down and taking notice of things that are currently around you.
Yes, it is a coping skill!
John has a lot of stress from school. When he gets home, he yells at his brothers to get his frustration out. Is this a healthy coping skill and why or why not?
No!
Talking with someone is a great coping skill. However, yelling is unhealthy and it may cause issues in our relationships.
True or False:
Coping skills help you focus on the important things in your life.
TRUE!
When we can cope with problems in our lives, it is easier to focus on everything else that is important to us!
Out of all the animals of conflict (The turtle, the owl, and the shark) which one should you strive to be and why?
We should strive to be more like the owl because the owl is the solution finder and focuses on finding solution to the problem.
Anger Scenario
When Bryan gets told no in school, he will shut down and not do his work. Can you think of a better choice to make to deal with his anger?
take a deep breath
take a break and come back to his work
talk about his feelings
Name three things that you can journal about.
- Your Feelings (sad, happy, mad, motivated, etc.)
- Thoughts
- Favorite Activities
- Goals
- Future Events
Suzie gets in to a fight with her mom. She decides to leave the situation and go for a walk. Is this a healthy coping skill?
Yes!
Going on a walk and leaving the situation is a great way to reduce stress and calm down.
True or False:
Coping skills are not important to your well-being.
FALSE!
Coping skills create a sense of calmness, confidence, and inner-peace. They are important for your overall health.
What can cooperation and team work help us with?
-solving problems
-making new friends
-find solutionsif you have to defend your life
if you have to defend someone you love from danger